No, it’s because I read the list and they don’t give convincing justification for their choices. Most of the banned words are banned because “someone somewhere

No, it’s because I read the list and they don’t give convincing justification for their choices. Most of the banned words are banned because “someone somewhere maybe might interpret this as offensive in the worst possible case.” Everyone agrees that certain words are slurs. Stanford and their ilk have just started designating things slurs that aren’t used that way. Did you read the lists in question?