I struggle with this tremendously. I am always looking to "solve the problem" for anyone that I am in conversation with. I am looking to help "optimize". It has

I struggle with this tremendously. I am always looking to "solve the problem" for anyone that I am in conversation with. I am looking to help "optimize". It has taken me a long time to realize that you need to keep it to yourself and most people don't care about being optimized. Heck, I even fight with my wife at times when she takes the long cut while driving. Her argument "do you really care if it takes me an extra 2 mins". When you think about it, it makes sense to stop trying to be so helpful. It is a curse and boon poeple like us are born with. Boon when you apply just to yourself. Curse when you try to do it to others who don't ask for it :)