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With no disrespect intended towards your friend: I think there's broad social agreement that anybody who plays video games for 14 hours a day is probably intole
by woodruffw 4y ago
With no disrespect intended towards your friend: I think there's broad social agreement that anybody who plays video games for 14 hours a day is probably intolerable in anything except a completely lopsided relationship.
Put another way: that leaves 10 hours a day for eating, sleeping, and the actual things that make relationships work (quality time, sharing responsibilities, etc.). Unless your friend didn't sleep, he probably wasn't being a very attentive partner.
- throwawaysleep 4y agoShe would have put up with him were he an investment banker though.
- ilikecakeandpie 4y agoDo you know this person?
- darthrupert 4y agoWhy are you comparing a career to entertainment?
- bitxbitxbitcoin 4y agoBecause to an alien looking down, they would just see a human sitting in front of a screen for 14 hours.
- woodruffw 4y agoThis is counterfactual: the GP describes someone who was unemployed. We have no particular reason to believe that an unemployed video-game-addicted investment banker would fare any better than an unemployed video-game-addicted not-investment banker.
- s1artibartfast 4y agoThat may be the case, but I think the point still stands. A lot of people can respect their partner spending 10 hours a day to get money to contribute to a collective future but not respect them for spending it on a hedonistic pleasure they don't share
- kar5pt 4y agoIf he was an investment banker he wouldn't have been playing video games 14 hours a day.
- astrange 4y agoHe'd be making PowerPoint decks nobody reads instead.
- MuffinFlavored 4y ago> anybody who plays video games for 14 hours a day is probably intolerable in anything except a completely lopsided relationship. Makes a great guild leader though?
- bick_nyers 4y agoOverly detailed response but: I have found that average number of hours played per day is negatively correlated with how laid-back the player is. Laidbackness is bimodal, in that lower skill and very high skill players tend to be laidback. A large amount of above average (but not excellent) players tend to play more hours per day, be more obsessive, less forgiving, and fairly judgemental of how other people play. I like to think of this as the Dunning-Kruger curve in action. We call these players "sweaties", because they are breaking a sweat and stressing over everything. Really great players don't stress, they just perform.
- mikrl 4y agoIn undergrad I used to play crusader kings for hours and get super (too) invested. These days I jump on Doom Eternal (hurt me plenty) for maybe 15-45 minutes at a time, chew through a horde of demons with glee and can easily walk away to do something else.
- bick_nyers 4y agoThanks for reminding me that I still need to finish that masterpiece of a game (Doom Eternal).
- red-iron-pine 4y agoDifferent games tho, with different narrative focuses. CKII / III is designed to get you sucked in, attached to your dynasty and its members, and focused on emergent gameplay -- it's your world, or one that evolves in new and fun ways around you. The newest Doom games are great, but there is no deep story, just enough plot and lore to give the game context. In a practical sense you're shootin, jumpin, and clickin -- 20 frenetic minutes of excitement. Put cursor over target until dopamine is deployed, repeat. Crazy adrenaline highs but also no larger engrossing activity except generating skulls for the skull throne.