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Anecdote but I’ve noticed there’s a big difference in the activities men and women do when they’re “idle.” In 2009 a friend got laid off and began to play World

• somedude895 4y ago
  If my girlfriend was laid off and started watching Netflix and browsing Instagram for 14 hours a day I'd find that intolerable as well.
  • dvngnt_ 4y ago
    depends on the show
• joemazerino 4y ago
  Self-judged harshly. Your friend is playing WoW not just to escape but to feel accomplished in a group. He can't escape his biological need to fit in, compete with and succeed with his boys.
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• woodruffw 4y ago
  With no disrespect intended towards your friend: I think there's broad social agreement that anybody who plays video games for 14 hours a day is probably intolerable in anything except a completely lopsided relationship. Put another way: that leaves 10 hours a day for eating, sleeping, and the actual things that make relationships work (quality time, sharing responsibilities, etc.). Unless your friend didn't sleep, he probably wasn't being a very attentive partner.
  • throwawaysleep 4y ago
    She would have put up with him were he an investment banker though.
    • ilikecakeandpie 4y ago
      Do you know this person?
    • darthrupert 4y ago
      Why are you comparing a career to entertainment?
      • bitxbitxbitcoin 4y ago
        Because to an alien looking down, they would just see a human sitting in front of a screen for 14 hours.
    • woodruffw 4y ago
      This is counterfactual: the GP describes someone who was unemployed. We have no particular reason to believe that an unemployed video-game-addicted investment banker would fare any better than an unemployed video-game-addicted not-investment banker.
    • s1artibartfast 4y ago
      That may be the case, but I think the point still stands. A lot of people can respect their partner spending 10 hours a day to get money to contribute to a collective future but not respect them for spending it on a hedonistic pleasure they don't share
    • kar5pt 4y ago
      If he was an investment banker he wouldn't have been playing video games 14 hours a day.
      • astrange 4y ago
• beebeepka 4y ago
  A grown up man spending 14 hours a day playing games is a very bad sign. It's ok for a few months, provided one has some money, but not a great long term strategy. Yes, it's hard. But you don't fight depression with endless gaming sessions. Quite the opposite, really. I feel incredibly stupid playing multiplayer games during business hours because, well, who am I playing against/with? Either children or lazy bums.
  • afpx 4y ago
    When I stopped working (cause I was tired and had saved more than enough money), I pretty much played video games and smoked pot for 2 years. My spouse gave me a hard time, because she was getting social pressure because of it. But, she basically told everyone to lay off because I was a responsible adult. After about 2 years, I got bored with video games and started coding again for fun. But, my spouse was awesome for her continual support. But, it was irritating that people gave me a hard time about it. Some people seem to need shared pain, and if they’re in pain but they see someone chilling, they’ll react to it.
    • beebeepka 4y ago
      Hey man, I've taken long sabbaticals myself. Since multiple people complained, I guess dropping generalisations like that was inappropriate. In my mind it was clear that I was referring to working age people who could use all that free time for something else. Personally, I am looking forward to some gardening. I've spent several decades playing games multiple hours almost every week. Clearly not everyone has been wasting their youth as I did and I am glad for people who finally get to do what they want.
  • em-bee 4y ago
    find a server with players in a different timezone
    • Gigachad 4y ago
      For most games, latency becomes too much of a deal to do this.