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Yeah, I liked most of this but "willpower" is a dangerous concept to me. I mostly believe it's a useless and terrible way to frame this sort of thing; it engend
by jrm4 4y ago
Yeah, I liked most of this but "willpower" is a dangerous concept to me. I mostly believe it's a useless and terrible way to frame this sort of thing; it engenders guilt without helping.
Lack of willpower is really just "right now, your body can't seem to see the value in what you're theoretically supposed to do." There are two ways of dealing with it, one might be "no, seriously, this sucks and is pointless, so just DONT DO IT."
The other is usually, find a way to trick yourself. Play little games, timers, whatever. Just understand that "is there something wrong with me" is a trap. There isn't, you just have to figure out the trick.
- Waterluvian 4y agoCoping mechanisms are often helpful. But shouldn’t be used to evade recognizing and possibly addressing the underlying issues. Sometimes there is physiologically or psychologically something wrong.
- em-bee 4y agoyou could rename willpower with energy and get to a similar point, but at least for me, i feel willpower is what is driving me throughout the day. i don't see where the guilt should come from? if i run out of willpower or energy i need to rest and relax. every evening i reach that point. why should i feel guilty about that? there is nothing wrong with willpower running out. when i reach that point i know that i deserve a rest. decision fatigue is another aspect of this. to many decisions to make and you are getting tired of that. i solve that by automating many things. (like watching tv or listening to books, i have them on a schedule, and the only time i need to make a decision is when i need to find something new to watch which happens every few months.