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I have been with her now 4x. I have talked about my upbringing and that that is the motivation why I came to see her. Then the breakup happened, so the last two

I have been with her now 4x. I have talked about my upbringing and that that is the motivation why I came to see her. Then the breakup happened, so the last two times we talked about that. Apparently she is specialised for adult children of complicated parents. And apparently next time we will do some questionnaire or something. So far we have only talked and she suggested one book ("iRest - Healing PTSD") which I started reading. She is supportive, but so far she mostly said I should find things I like doing, join sports clubs, try mindfulness and basic stuff like that. I know that my issues run deeper.

dimal 4y ago
If you do have PTSD, I’ve found that somatic experiencing therapy has been amazingly effective for me. Talking about trauma only gets you so far. It sounds crazy and very “woo”, but I’ve found that trauma really is stored in the body in the form of held muscle tension. I found that I was literally physically bracing myself against the things I feared, 24 hours a day, every day. The constant physical tension was telling my brain “something is wrong” and no amount of talking about it would help dispel that feeling. Learning to identify where this is happening and how to release it has been invaluable for me. I second the previous commenter’s opinion. Therapists all have their individual ways of seeing and working. What works wonders for one person will be a waste of time for another. If you’re not getting much out of it, keep looking for someone that can help YOU.