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Four years is a long time. Maybe this was your first significant partner. Those breakups can be hard. Open yourself up to people around you. Friends. Colleague

by pgayed 4y ago

Four years is a long time. Maybe this was your first significant partner. Those breakups can be hard. Open yourself up to people around you. Friends. Colleagues you trust or admire. Have and make dinner with them. Be social. Be vulnerable to people who seem receptive. Keep a good routine. Don't let it get out of whack but don't overwork yourself into isolation. You'll be okay in time. HN is rooting for you.

cloverich 4y ago
This is the way, based on my experience and being in a similar place at that point in my life (now 40). Breakups are hard and 2 weeks is nothing. IMHO in addition to time, seek balance: socially (reach out to close friends, slowly make effort with new ones), keep your routines, exercise regularly, and realize your professional life can take many turns and its ok to pivot. You are young still and have plenty of time to develop new relationships and career paths, take a breath, take it slow. If you cam afford to, also consider taking a trip a few weeks from now. Very anecdotal but i found capping off the low point youll go through the next few weeks with something novel can help you shake off the old mindset once you are ready.
- Schroedingers2c 4y ago
  Thank you! I'm trying all those things and got into a daily morning walk routine and am going to the gym every single day for the foreseeable future. I also found a Surf & Yoga week in Portugal I might do.
Schroedingers2c 4y ago
Yep, had a 8 month girlfriend before (first love) but this one was the first significant and really deep relationship. I have reached out a lot to near and distant friends/colleagues and family. It has helped and at least one new deep friendship with a colleague seems to come out of it, which I am quite happy about. Thanks for the last sentence, made me smile.

4 ms·

Four years is a long time. Maybe this was your first significant partner. Those breakups can be hard. Open yourself up to people around you. Friends. Colleague

by pgayed 4y ago

cloverich 4y ago
This is the way, based on my experience and being in a similar place at that point in my life (now 40). Breakups are hard and 2 weeks is nothing. IMHO in addition to time, seek balance: socially (reach out to close friends, slowly make effort with new ones), keep your routines, exercise regularly, and realize your professional life can take many turns and its ok to pivot. You are young still and have plenty of time to develop new relationships and career paths, take a breath, take it slow. If you cam afford to, also consider taking a trip a few weeks from now. Very anecdotal but i found capping off the low point youll go through the next few weeks with something novel can help you shake off the old mindset once you are ready.
- Schroedingers2c 4y ago
  Thank you! I'm trying all those things and got into a daily morning walk routine and am going to the gym every single day for the foreseeable future. I also found a Surf & Yoga week in Portugal I might do.
Schroedingers2c 4y ago
Yep, had a 8 month girlfriend before (first love) but this one was the first significant and really deep relationship. I have reached out a lot to near and distant friends/colleagues and family. It has helped and at least one new deep friendship with a colleague seems to come out of it, which I am quite happy about. Thanks for the last sentence, made me smile.