Hey man, don't worry, it will be all right! About ~10 years ago in 2012-2013, within a ~6 month period (i) my startup [1] which I've been doing for 4 years fai

Hey man, don't worry, it will be all right! About ~10 years ago in 2012-2013, within a ~6 month period (i) my startup [1] which I've been doing for 4 years failed / we shut it down (ii) my wife left me (we've been together for 7 years), and a few months later told me that she'd been cheating on me. There was a ~6 month period when I was very depressed, sometimes I wasn't able to sleep for multiple nights in a row, and even when I got sleep, it was a few hours at best. It was a terrible period, I felt humiliated and reduced to nothing. I looked at my friends with stable boring jobs and families and thought that I messed up big time. I was so depressed, I even went to church a couple of times Sunday morning, because I couldn't sleep and I felt so sorry for myself, even though I'm an agnostic physicist. Then something really unexpected happened: I got a job at a successful startup [2], which had great culture and lots of young people, and suddenly I was partying 2x a week with my new friends from work. While I was doing my own startup I stopped doing sports, so I picked up a +15 kg. The depression helped me lose most of it, and since I suddenly had a lot of free-time (no startup, no wife), I started doing sports again [3]. Even more unexpected, being divorced turned out to be appealing to ladies (I jokingly call it the "wounded deer pity phenomenon"), and I noticed ladies sending me signals, which helped my self-confidence get back on track. Overall, in another ~6 months, to my huge surprise, there was a huge turn-around in my life, and in the end 2013 became one of the best years of my life! It was super-surprising, because it started on such a downer (Jan-6 was when my wife told me it's over, next day she moved out), but by Q3 I was hooked up with my girlfriend [4], feeling super happy at work and I even did another Ironman that year and beat my previous best by 2 hours! So... it's completely normal to feel depressed in such situations. Just give it some time, build yourself up, and find a good social situation. I personally also started a Phd, which I didn't finish because of the aforementioned startup, but I don't want to tell you to do that. You can create positive vibes around you even by going to a co-working place 2x a week, doing some team sports, etc. Another thing that helps is going to therapy. It's completely normal to go, these days I do couple's therapy semi-regularly with my (current/2nd) wife. - [1] https://github.com/scalien/scaliendb https://github.com/scalien/scaliendb [2] Prezi [3] triathlons [4] later/currently wife, we have a beautiful 4 year old boy