I just dont see the difference. Why would a feeling which is 'situationally inappropriate' be "valid" ? And why would you want to absolutely defend that it shou

I just dont see the difference. Why would a feeling which is 'situationally inappropriate' be "valid" ? And why would you want to absolutely defend that it should be ? My point is that feelings are sometimes misguided and reason should be used to guide them. Sometimes it's the opposite: reason and logical arguments tells you something but your "gut feeling" tells you HARD NO and you should probably follow that gut feelings. Sometimes it's not an easy process to know the balance, other times it's just lack of experience / education like in cases it've cited and some more experienced person can help you if they have lived something similar. But completely forbidding yourself to assess / say, that someone's feeling is misguided makes no sense at all to me and seem to be some ideological bullshit that is really helping absolutely no one on the long term.