I think you have finally hit upon the solution to the pronoun problem. In almost no case till I care about the express sexuality of the person for whom I am us

I think you have finally hit upon the solution to the pronoun problem. In almost no case till I care about the express sexuality of the person for whom I am using a pronoun and I resent having to be forced to care about their self-centered nature, being self-centered myself. However, instead of saying "he is wearing a weird hat", I can say "that cat is wearing a weird hat" And I don't have to worry about it. Gracias.