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> I causally used the "r-word" and didn't even think anything of it You casually called someone a "retard" (I assume that's the word) and someone took that wro
by ok_dad 4y ago
> I causally used the "r-word" and didn't even think anything of it
You casually called someone a "retard" (I assume that's the word) and someone took that wrongly? Of course they did! Even when "retard" was an acceptable put-down, it was still a put-down.
Maybe the way to avoid the "minefield" you speak of is to not put others down? Even deservedly! Just try to be nicer to everyone, even if they are not, themselves, nice.
- alar44 4y ago[dead]
- sertsa 4y agoI've never thought of retarded as a putdown, it was just the sound used to describe a certain group of people. Be careful assuming you are in possession of the one true way.
- SyzygistSix 4y agoThere is a difference. Retarded was used to describe a person's condition. It means slow. Retard the noun was more a slur or put down.
- ok_dad 4y ago> I've never thought of retarded as a putdown You may be one of the few, in that case. Good! Other people might not understand that about you if you used that word around them.