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Yeah, like I said, the article is about a 66-year-old single mother of three working two jobs to stay afloat. She already had to move in with two roomates becau

Yeah, like I said, the article is about a 66-year-old single mother of three working two jobs to stay afloat. She already had to move in with two roomates because she can't afford otherwise. Let's not blind ourselves to our own privilege, lest we become "let them eat cake" people. Many Americans cannot afford to steadily invest in a passive portfolio and don't have a realistic avenue to live any more frugally than they already to to any meaningful, life-improving extent.

mamonster 4y ago
"Blind ourselves to our own privilege" I'm gonna be the asshole here, the article clearly states she adopted 3 children. Now because it isn't a particularly good article we don't know if maybe she adopted her nieces or nephew or whatever, but probably not(based on the video). That decision alone is a very big red flag that (coupled with the ominous "I have a live-for-now philosophy") that we are looking at a person that made some questionable decisions in her life.
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- Ozzie_osman 4y ago
  Maybe questionable decisions, maybe selfless decisions? I don't think we should judge her.
  - Fauntleroy 4y ago
    Good intentions do not make up for negative outcomes.
    - Ozzie_osman 4y ago
      That depends on your values. I definitely know some people who have and would make a sacrifice like "Adopt 3 people and potentially change their life outcome for the positive, at my own personal expense"
- PuppyTailWags 4y ago
  We don't know if she had a husband with 3 kids she legally adopted when they married and then the husband died. There are plenty of ways someone ends up with three children without some questionable decisions. There's no way she would be able to adopt a child from an agency due to the huge monetary constraints. Please consider being a little less of an asshole, because occam's razor is that she very likely adopted these children via family or marriage, as it is the only way to do so without being upper-middle class. This is precisely the amount of blind privilege I'm advising against.
cykros 4y ago
The mother of three part is where she went beyond her means. Children are a luxury, and they're one of the more expensive ones people widely indulge in. By all means, if they're a major value in your life, spend your money where you choose to. But don't be surprised if that means it comes from another part. That said, at some point demographics are going to result in a need to incentivize child rearing politically, particularly in developed countries. It may be wise to look to how difficult this process is going in China and Japan and get out ahead of it before it is the emergency it's growing into over there. We may take an ever present labor pool for granted thanks to immigration over our Southern border here in the US, but not every job can be filled by a migrant worker with little formal education.
- lsj0627 4y ago
  We don't know the context though. Some people are responsible and have kids when they're doing fine financially, but then unexpected hardships happen. They don't deserve to be blamed in hindsight.

mamonster 4y ago

"Blind ourselves to our own privilege" I'm gonna be the asshole here, the article clearly states she adopted 3 children. Now because it isn't a particularly good article we don't know if maybe she adopted her nieces or nephew or whatever, but probably not(based on the video). That decision alone is a very big red flag that (coupled with the ominous "I have a live-for-now philosophy") that we are looking at a person that made some questionable decisions in her life.

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Ozzie_osman 4y ago
Maybe questionable decisions, maybe selfless decisions? I don't think we should judge her.
- Fauntleroy 4y ago
  Good intentions do not make up for negative outcomes.
  - Ozzie_osman 4y ago
    That depends on your values. I definitely know some people who have and would make a sacrifice like "Adopt 3 people and potentially change their life outcome for the positive, at my own personal expense"
PuppyTailWags 4y ago
We don't know if she had a husband with 3 kids she legally adopted when they married and then the husband died. There are plenty of ways someone ends up with three children without some questionable decisions. There's no way she would be able to adopt a child from an agency due to the huge monetary constraints. Please consider being a little less of an asshole, because occam's razor is that she very likely adopted these children via family or marriage, as it is the only way to do so without being upper-middle class. This is precisely the amount of blind privilege I'm advising against.

cykros 4y ago

The mother of three part is where she went beyond her means. Children are a luxury, and they're one of the more expensive ones people widely indulge in. By all means, if they're a major value in your life, spend your money where you choose to. But don't be surprised if that means it comes from another part. That said, at some point demographics are going to result in a need to incentivize child rearing politically, particularly in developed countries. It may be wise to look to how difficult this process is going in China and Japan and get out ahead of it before it is the emergency it's growing into over there. We may take an ever present labor pool for granted thanks to immigration over our Southern border here in the US, but not every job can be filled by a migrant worker with little formal education.

lsj0627 4y ago
We don't know the context though. Some people are responsible and have kids when they're doing fine financially, but then unexpected hardships happen. They don't deserve to be blamed in hindsight.