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> “If I am 51 and she is 23, how can I not think I am being catfished for a possible robbery?” The man makes a fair point. Personally, I don't go on a date unl

> “If I am 51 and she is 23, how can I not think I am being catfished for a possible robbery?” The man makes a fair point. Personally, I don't go on a date unless I am convinced this person and I have some things in common and would actually have a good time hanging out. If one party is worried, they can ask for a phone call/video chat or to exchange social media. I have a feeling many men are far less discerning and are simply "swiping right" on everyone and then engage with any of the resulting "matches" that give them the time of day.

expertentipp 4y ago
> I don't go on a date unless I am convinced this person and I have some things in common and would actually have a good time hanging out. If one party is worried, they can ask for a phone call/video chat or to exchange social media. In a balanced environment this would work. Dating, apartment rental, and job search markets notoriously aren't balanced environments. > men are far less discerning and are simply "swiping right" on everyone and then engage with any of the resulting "matches" that give them the time of day. This here is the reality. It doesn't matter what you want and feel.
gowld 4y ago
Why would every prostitute be a robber? If this is happening, it's a failure of law enforcement and sociery. I matched someone 1 year younger than me. I was catfished for a robbery -- she got my house, my money, and my kids.
InCityDreams 4y ago
>many men are far less discerning and are simply "swiping right" on everyone and then engage with any of the resulting "matches" Hey, customers - see how the app company is allowing you to be treated?
thomastjeffery 4y ago
Then your interest is romance. For many men, the intention of dating is sex. They are willing, if they must, to perform romance along the way; but that is a compromise, not a goal. The romance may become genuine in practice, but that still doesn't make it an explicit goal. This is the side-effect of a cultural narrative that pretends sex and romance to be one and the same.

expertentipp 4y ago

> I don't go on a date unless I am convinced this person and I have some things in common and would actually have a good time hanging out. If one party is worried, they can ask for a phone call/video chat or to exchange social media. In a balanced environment this would work. Dating, apartment rental, and job search markets notoriously aren't balanced environments. > men are far less discerning and are simply "swiping right" on everyone and then engage with any of the resulting "matches" that give them the time of day. This here is the reality. It doesn't matter what you want and feel.

gowld 4y ago

Why would every prostitute be a robber? If this is happening, it's a failure of law enforcement and sociery. I matched someone 1 year younger than me. I was catfished for a robbery -- she got my house, my money, and my kids.

InCityDreams 4y ago

>many men are far less discerning and are simply "swiping right" on everyone and then engage with any of the resulting "matches" Hey, customers - see how the app company is allowing you to be treated?

thomastjeffery 4y ago

Then your interest is romance. For many men, the intention of dating is sex. They are willing, if they must, to perform romance along the way; but that is a compromise, not a goal. The romance may become genuine in practice, but that still doesn't make it an explicit goal. This is the side-effect of a cultural narrative that pretends sex and romance to be one and the same.