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Wow, that is... a very cynical way to view that interaction. Obviously you were there to hear how they said it, but I'll apologize if I bump into someone on acc
by noirbot 4y ago
Wow, that is... a very cynical way to view that interaction. Obviously you were there to hear how they said it, but I'll apologize if I bump into someone on accident and earnestly mean it.
What would you think is more honest? Someone bumps into you and cusses you out? Says nothing and ignores that the may have hurt you or caused you to drop something?
- Swizec 4y agoOh no, this was a very San Francisco interaction. My sister was definitely in the way, had no idea what she was doing, and got an “cough excuse me” after not noticing the person awkwardly trying to get around her for the prerequisite 10 seconds. And yeah in a crowded place with people having very little personal space? Just ignore it and move on. It’s not a big deal. Obviously there are levels of crowdedness, but somewhere between empty room and front row at a concert, you stop acknowledging small bumps. Either way, I don’t think I’ve seen anyone use “excuse me” as an apology in SF. It’s more like the Minnesotan “ope” – said while you’re already shoving your way past someone purposefully. An apology sounds more like ”Shit, I’m sorry! Are you okay?”
- noirbot 4y agoSo, in that case, what would have been the more "honest" way for that person to have gotten your sister to move? "Will you please move out of my way" is honest, but feels like it has just as much of an implied "You inconsiderate asshole" while taking far more words and time. I'm mostly curious because I've been living with a variety of German travelers in the US for the last 10 years for reasons and have, if anything, found them to be overly polite to the point of annoyance relative to my American instincts.