do you have this point when "civilization" enforced monogamy? I would think the explanation was more that Og the big violent caveman took all the women and club

do you have this point when "civilization" enforced monogamy? I would think the explanation was more that Og the big violent caveman took all the women and clubbed any one who got to close which is very close to what mating has looked like in lots of human history. Men locking up the women to mate with - harems etc. - is not quite the same as "Women seek to mate"