Someone can wish no ill to others, yet still find irony or absurdity in things that already happened. It's something that both victims and witnesses often do as

Someone can wish no ill to others, yet still find irony or absurdity in things that already happened. It's something that both victims and witnesses often do as a way of processing life's darker realities. Please don't tell other people how they should experience tragedy or speak on behalf of victims. You're no better situated to do that the person you responded to.