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lol you’re… you are commenting here? You could have joined everybody else in commenting on the article but you chose not to?

nirvgorilla 4y ago
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- braingenious 4y ago
  Buddy I don’t know you in person, but if any of my friends said “I don’t read news sites without comment sections” I would laugh out loud in their presence. Doubly so if they proposed creating a youtube channel to illustrate that point.
  - maxbond 4y ago
    Let's not be mock people when they say stuff out of frustration. That's just pushing people's buttons. We've all gotten frustrated and said something silly like that. No need to rub it in. You could've made the same point in a constructive manner.
    - braingenious 4y ago
      I stated a fact. He decided to call people that disagreed with him “tardations”. I am not a big fan of time policing, but may I suggest you try to correct the folks using childish names rather than suggesting they be treated extra nice?
      - maxbond 4y ago
        I actually tried to respond to it but it was flagged before I finished typing. I have several comments in this thread that are critical of them. I'm not defending their insults, but I take issue with you responding to them in an inflammatory way. It's not okay to stir someone into a temper, and then when they react badly, weaponize that against them. Someone behaving badly in conversation is not license to treat them badly. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. My suggestion to you would be to flag insulting comments and move on rather than trying to be hurtful to someone who was hurtful to you. As a personal rule I try to respond respectfully or not at all. I don't always succeed at this. When I don't succeed I find I make an fool of myself and end up saying something dumb. Honestly I think that's pretty much what happened here - your first comment in this thread has insulting undertones, the other commenter took the bait, and they came out not looking so good. You took advantage of their overreaction to further insult them, and in my eyes you look like a jerk and a bully. But I bet you don't treat people that way in general, and that it isn't compatible with how you see yourself and the reputation you'd like to cultivate.
        braingenious 4y ago
        When somebody bursts into a normal thread like Kramer from Seinfeld and starts spouting genuinely odd, angry and fully off-topic nonsense, I see no issue with pointing out the fact that that behavior is in fact childish to the point of being comical. How many paragraphs were you prepared to write to admonish that poster? This bit of policing is kind of strange to me. My genuine feedback to you: Your very detailed analysis of my posts was not asked for, and calling me a jerk and a bully is not going to engender a working conversation between us in the same way that if I said “holier-than-thou backseat moderator” wouldn’t encourage you to engage in a real dialogue either. Respectfully, in the future please try to curtail your impulse to impose your personal rules on me. I am not open to your coaching. Any further criticism of me is wholly unwelcome, will not be applied, and I’ll just have to ignore our respond to it in the same way I decide how to engage with any other pointless off-topic emotional nonsense.
        maxbond 4y ago
        I'm sorry if what I said bothered you. I will stick to responding to your criticism of me, and not include any further criticism of you in this response. I don't think I'm better or holier than you, I regularly fail to live up to what I'm suggesting. I'm not trying to impose anything on you; everything I said was a suggestion, and I interpreted your offering me advice as an invitation to offer advice in return. Much like you feel you have license to tell people they are being childish when you judge it appropriate, I feel I have license to tell people they are being rude when I judge it appropriate. Both of us are expressing our view of how people should behave in this community, "back seat moderating" if you will. Thank you for your feedback. Have a great rest of your day.
        braingenious 4y ago
        > Let's not be mock people when they say stuff out of frustration. The first thing you said to me was a condescending command. lol at “inviting advice in return” Buddy you showed up to backseat mod in the first place. I’ve just asked you to personally leave me alone with the (from my perspective) kind of silly decorum police nonsense. I did not come out of nowhere and tell you how to interact with other people. That’s kind of a significant difference.

nirvgorilla 4y ago

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braingenious 4y ago
Buddy I don’t know you in person, but if any of my friends said “I don’t read news sites without comment sections” I would laugh out loud in their presence. Doubly so if they proposed creating a youtube channel to illustrate that point.
- maxbond 4y ago
  Let's not be mock people when they say stuff out of frustration. That's just pushing people's buttons. We've all gotten frustrated and said something silly like that. No need to rub it in. You could've made the same point in a constructive manner.
  - braingenious 4y ago
    I stated a fact. He decided to call people that disagreed with him “tardations”. I am not a big fan of time policing, but may I suggest you try to correct the folks using childish names rather than suggesting they be treated extra nice?
    - maxbond 4y ago
      I actually tried to respond to it but it was flagged before I finished typing. I have several comments in this thread that are critical of them. I'm not defending their insults, but I take issue with you responding to them in an inflammatory way. It's not okay to stir someone into a temper, and then when they react badly, weaponize that against them. Someone behaving badly in conversation is not license to treat them badly. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. My suggestion to you would be to flag insulting comments and move on rather than trying to be hurtful to someone who was hurtful to you. As a personal rule I try to respond respectfully or not at all. I don't always succeed at this. When I don't succeed I find I make an fool of myself and end up saying something dumb. Honestly I think that's pretty much what happened here - your first comment in this thread has insulting undertones, the other commenter took the bait, and they came out not looking so good. You took advantage of their overreaction to further insult them, and in my eyes you look like a jerk and a bully. But I bet you don't treat people that way in general, and that it isn't compatible with how you see yourself and the reputation you'd like to cultivate.
      - braingenious 4y ago
        When somebody bursts into a normal thread like Kramer from Seinfeld and starts spouting genuinely odd, angry and fully off-topic nonsense, I see no issue with pointing out the fact that that behavior is in fact childish to the point of being comical. How many paragraphs were you prepared to write to admonish that poster? This bit of policing is kind of strange to me. My genuine feedback to you: Your very detailed analysis of my posts was not asked for, and calling me a jerk and a bully is not going to engender a working conversation between us in the same way that if I said “holier-than-thou backseat moderator” wouldn’t encourage you to engage in a real dialogue either. Respectfully, in the future please try to curtail your impulse to impose your personal rules on me. I am not open to your coaching. Any further criticism of me is wholly unwelcome, will not be applied, and I’ll just have to ignore our respond to it in the same way I decide how to engage with any other pointless off-topic emotional nonsense.
        maxbond 4y ago
        I'm sorry if what I said bothered you. I will stick to responding to your criticism of me, and not include any further criticism of you in this response. I don't think I'm better or holier than you, I regularly fail to live up to what I'm suggesting. I'm not trying to impose anything on you; everything I said was a suggestion, and I interpreted your offering me advice as an invitation to offer advice in return. Much like you feel you have license to tell people they are being childish when you judge it appropriate, I feel I have license to tell people they are being rude when I judge it appropriate. Both of us are expressing our view of how people should behave in this community, "back seat moderating" if you will. Thank you for your feedback. Have a great rest of your day.
        braingenious 4y ago
        > Let's not be mock people when they say stuff out of frustration. The first thing you said to me was a condescending command. lol at “inviting advice in return” Buddy you showed up to backseat mod in the first place. I’ve just asked you to personally leave me alone with the (from my perspective) kind of silly decorum police nonsense. I did not come out of nowhere and tell you how to interact with other people. That’s kind of a significant difference.