Thank you! I was actually assuming I was downvoted because I asserted that each partner should really be working 50% of the hours, or 20 hours only, which conf

Thank you! I was actually assuming I was downvoted because I asserted that each partner should really be working 50% of the hours, or 20 hours only, which conflicts with the ingrained calvinist belief system that says that activities you don't get paid for have little or no value. So in that mindset, if you're working less, you're wasting time, and all downtime or personal time or social time or unpaid time caring for others is just sloth and therefore sinful, or at best, "womens work". Now I don't think that's true at all, but I think many people believe that on such a deep level that it's never occurred to them to question whether it's true. But, maybe you're right and people were just skimming what I wrote without really paying attention and assuming I was advocating a return to strictly segregated gender roles. Which I am not.