I'd encourage anyone who wants to have an informed opinion on this stuff to try creating an account with the opposite gender on a dating website. I did this ab

I'd encourage anyone who wants to have an informed opinion on this stuff to try creating an account with the opposite gender on a dating website. I did this about a decade ago (before the rise of tinder and suchlike) and the difference in experience for men and women is huge. I made an extremely basic female profile, with a photo that didn't even show a face and barely any other details - and I was immediately buried in a completely unmanagable landslide of messages. And none of them were from people who'd read the profile and considered details like personality, interests, values or compatibility - I hadn't provided anything! These people must have been purely playing a numbers game, copy-pasting the same message to dozens of women a day with barely a glance at their profile. That gave me an appreciation for the fact that women on these website have to get through their messages fast and even if my messages were nuggets of gold, they were buried in a dung pile of other messages.