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This is the perspective of a woman. Personal experience as a man: > present yourself exactly as you are > be picky with this approach, I'd get exactly zer

This is the perspective of a woman. Personal experience as a man: > present yourself exactly as you are > be picky with this approach, I'd get exactly zero attractions, to put it in her terms, which doesn't reflect my real world dynamics.

jeltz 4y ago
I am just an average looking short scrawny guy and I would not say it is that hard to get matches for me on Tinder. Some even write to me first. I would say the first advice is very true (within reason) even for men but that since there are fewer women on dating apps than men we cannot afford to be as picky. I feel presenting yourself as you are (but slightly improved version) is just sound advice because you do not want to waste your time anyway with people who are not attracted to you.
- bradlys 4y ago
  > I am just an average looking short scrawny guy Anytime this gets posted along with "and I get lots of matches" - it is almost universal that the person is in-fact not an average looking guy. Post pics and numbers of matches/week - you're very unlikely to be average looking if you claim to do well. The overwhelming amount of men who post on dating profile advice subreddits like tinder, hinge, etc. and are average looking men with reasonable profiles who get 0 matches proves your point to not be a reasonable expectation.
pixelpoet 4y ago
That's what I do and I'm single for 3-4-5 years between (long term) relationships, for a grand total of 5 at nearly 40. A lot of people have zero concept of how it is out there for us not-first-pick guys in online dating... and I guess it could be worse (just in a new relationship now), but yeah, it's pretty grim.
mcv 4y ago
It worked fine for me. I certainly don't want to date every woman, so I'm picky, and of course I present myself as I am. Of course if you're somehow an awful person, that is of course something to improve, and not something to hide.

jeltz 4y ago

I am just an average looking short scrawny guy and I would not say it is that hard to get matches for me on Tinder. Some even write to me first. I would say the first advice is very true (within reason) even for men but that since there are fewer women on dating apps than men we cannot afford to be as picky. I feel presenting yourself as you are (but slightly improved version) is just sound advice because you do not want to waste your time anyway with people who are not attracted to you.

bradlys 4y ago
> I am just an average looking short scrawny guy Anytime this gets posted along with "and I get lots of matches" - it is almost universal that the person is in-fact not an average looking guy. Post pics and numbers of matches/week - you're very unlikely to be average looking if you claim to do well. The overwhelming amount of men who post on dating profile advice subreddits like tinder, hinge, etc. and are average looking men with reasonable profiles who get 0 matches proves your point to not be a reasonable expectation.

pixelpoet 4y ago

That's what I do and I'm single for 3-4-5 years between (long term) relationships, for a grand total of 5 at nearly 40. A lot of people have zero concept of how it is out there for us not-first-pick guys in online dating... and I guess it could be worse (just in a new relationship now), but yeah, it's pretty grim.

mcv 4y ago

It worked fine for me. I certainly don't want to date every woman, so I'm picky, and of course I present myself as I am. Of course if you're somehow an awful person, that is of course something to improve, and not something to hide.