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Another way is to use an app like Hinge instead of Tinder. The pool of people is much smaller, but the app makes it so easy to create an interesting profile wit

Another way is to use an app like Hinge instead of Tinder. The pool of people is much smaller, but the app makes it so easy to create an interesting profile with some personality. Plus the fact that you don't simply swipe but are actually incentivized to take a closer look at the profile and respond directly to one of the snippets, which also serves as an instant icebreaker that launches you straight into a conversation. As a guy on Tinder I'd get a match maybe 1/20 swipes – and after being on there for a couple weeks it would go to 1/50 due to the app downgrading me for not being in the top 10% of popular prifiles. On Hinge I get a lot more women responding to my messages and also more requests directly from them. > If a guy can’t set up a decent profile or send a message beyond “Hey”, it doesn’t mean he’s too busy. It means he’s lazy, careless, or not actually invested in dating. This sense of entitlement grinds my gears though. Typically that's what women say who never make the first move.

makeitdouble 4y ago
Funny enough, Hinge is a recentish acquisition of Match.com, as apprently it started to get steam as a contender to Tinder and the other dating apps they also own.
yieldcrv 4y ago
About 5 years late on this observation Hinge has a leveling program just like Tinder does You didn’t escape, I’m glad you are entertained
- somedude895 4y ago
  It doesn't really matter, since you can strike up a conversation with anyone and don't depend on them swiping right on you.
  - yieldcrv 4y ago
    roses in hinge are the same as super likes on tinder. both apps let you pay to send an optional message in conjunction with those things to higher leveled people (more attractive/popular) than you. the recipient of a rose+message is just as weirded out or skeptical, has a ton of them, and has a ton of likes from people at their level. which is the reason their level is high at all. so you're just in their long list of matches, not standing out at all. and outside of your own initiative, in both leveling systems, higher leveled / attractive people never see your profile at all to make a decision for or against you. in all dating applications, many people have their notifications turned off, and actually forget to look. if you have another way to meet people, consider more of that. its healthier mentally. the leveling system attempts to mimic the non-dating app attraction world, but is still hampered by how few physical inputs a dating app provides about a potential partner, compared to in-person selection.
    - somedude895 4y ago
      Actually also gonna try speed dating. I got the idea from watching an old Borat skit so we'll see how that goes!
sgu999 4y ago
Completely agree. I don't know Hinge but I've had good success with OkCupid (and met my partner). It required more thoughts and effort to make the profile, but it was a much more joyful experience than the countless hours spent matching on Tinder for absolutely nothing.
DennisP 4y ago
Interesting, Hinge uses the Gale-Shapley algorithm for their "daily match" recommendation. For those unaware, the algorithm solves the Stable Marriage problem: find a global set of matches, where there's no pair who prefer each other to their own partners. https://blogs.cornell.edu/info2040/2021/09/30/hinge-and-its-implementation-of-the-gale-shapley-algorithm/ https://blogs.cornell.edu/info2040/2021/09/30/hinge-and-its-...
mcv 4y ago
> > If a guy can’t set up a decent profile or send a message beyond “Hey”, it doesn’t mean he’s too busy. It means he’s lazy, careless, or not actually invested in dating. > This sense of entitlement grinds my gears though. Typically that's what women say who never make the first move. I don't get why people see this as entitlement. It's just sensible. I'm a man, and I also don't respond when a stranger has nothing more to say than "Hey".

makeitdouble 4y ago

Funny enough, Hinge is a recentish acquisition of Match.com, as apprently it started to get steam as a contender to Tinder and the other dating apps they also own.

yieldcrv 4y ago

About 5 years late on this observation Hinge has a leveling program just like Tinder does You didn’t escape, I’m glad you are entertained

somedude895 4y ago
It doesn't really matter, since you can strike up a conversation with anyone and don't depend on them swiping right on you.
- yieldcrv 4y ago
  roses in hinge are the same as super likes on tinder. both apps let you pay to send an optional message in conjunction with those things to higher leveled people (more attractive/popular) than you. the recipient of a rose+message is just as weirded out or skeptical, has a ton of them, and has a ton of likes from people at their level. which is the reason their level is high at all. so you're just in their long list of matches, not standing out at all. and outside of your own initiative, in both leveling systems, higher leveled / attractive people never see your profile at all to make a decision for or against you. in all dating applications, many people have their notifications turned off, and actually forget to look. if you have another way to meet people, consider more of that. its healthier mentally. the leveling system attempts to mimic the non-dating app attraction world, but is still hampered by how few physical inputs a dating app provides about a potential partner, compared to in-person selection.
  - somedude895 4y ago
    Actually also gonna try speed dating. I got the idea from watching an old Borat skit so we'll see how that goes!

sgu999 4y ago

Completely agree. I don't know Hinge but I've had good success with OkCupid (and met my partner). It required more thoughts and effort to make the profile, but it was a much more joyful experience than the countless hours spent matching on Tinder for absolutely nothing.

DennisP 4y ago

Interesting, Hinge uses the Gale-Shapley algorithm for their "daily match" recommendation. For those unaware, the algorithm solves the Stable Marriage problem: find a global set of matches, where there's no pair who prefer each other to their own partners. https://blogs.cornell.edu/info2040/2021/09/30/hinge-and-its-implementation-of-the-gale-shapley-algorithm/ https://blogs.cornell.edu/info2040/2021/09/30/hinge-and-its-...

mcv 4y ago

> > If a guy can’t set up a decent profile or send a message beyond “Hey”, it doesn’t mean he’s too busy. It means he’s lazy, careless, or not actually invested in dating. > This sense of entitlement grinds my gears though. Typically that's what women say who never make the first move. I don't get why people see this as entitlement. It's just sensible. I'm a man, and I also don't respond when a stranger has nothing more to say than "Hey".