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> What do you talk about? How do you get to know someone, one on one in a romantic context? Not that hard, you just talk like, you know, humans, and you either
by twelve40 4y ago
> What do you talk about? How do you get to know someone, one on one in a romantic context?
Not that hard, you just talk like, you know, humans, and you either hit it off or not. Why is that any harder/different from the awkwardness of asking someone you know (possibly forever) out for the first time? At least here both parties know exactly what they signed up for.
- seba_dos1 4y ago> Not that hard, you just talk like, you know, humans Sounds like you take your skills for granted.
- twelve40 4y agoSorry, I'm really not claiming any skills. I've had good experience with the apps, my only takeaway is, if you reasonably loosen up and talk normal, and it doesn't work, then we click next, because no amount of pretend will work in the long run.
- seba_dos1 4y agoYou absolutely are. "Loosening up and talking normal" in presence of a stranger is a skill. Some people acquired it naturally while growing up, some had to put conscious effort to learn it, some never managed to learn it. For some people it was easy to learn, others find it hard. Some people manage to do it, but find it exhausting. Some people have to play on hard mode all the time due to conditions like RSD. Sounds like it's something that came easy to you - I'm just pointing out that it's not an universal experience.