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I wonder if others here found their mental age aging more rapidly after certain life events? The wake of aging parents transitioning (death, stroke/care home)
by JALTU 4y ago
I wonder if others here found their mental age aging more rapidly after certain life events?
The wake of aging parents transitioning (death, stroke/care home) has without doubt accelerated my mental age, which in turn has changed what I'd call my horizon. When younger and prior to said events, the horizon was far away; time enough for everything/anything. Not so much anymore, much greater sense of uncertainty.
- hnthrowaway0315 4y agoI feel that after kid was born. Chronic sleep deprivation and depression are the reasons. Not sure when will nd hopefully not too long.
- tenpies 4y agoI found depression to be a two-edged sword in the aging department. Mentally, I felt older, "an old soul". But physically, not having the energy to do anything, sleeping almost in excess, not going outside, not laughing or smiling . . . they all seem to have kept my body younger.
- adastra22 4y agoAbout 18 years.
- hnthrowaway0315 4y agoNooooooooooo!
- adastra22 4y agoNo seriously you get into huge groove after a while. But it’s never back to the life you had before.
- incanus77 4y agoFeels so for me. I'm nearing 46, and all through my 30s I felt (and was told) that I seemed younger. My wife passed from cancer when I was 39 and I feel like all that time caught up to me in the next year or so. Now I feel (and I think, look) age-appropriate, have begun to definitely feel the aging. However, I've also made more serious efforts towards good nutrition and exercise and am feeling much healthier than other periods of my life. But mentally, I'm incredibly presently aware of every day and how uncertain any future days with anyone, let alone myself, actually are.
- nerdface 4y agoSorry for your loss
- tilsammans 4y agoYes, absolutely. I've felt 22-ish for most of my adult life, until midlife happened. That was a couple years ago, and I'm in the tail end of my midlife "crisis". Right now, at 47, I feel my age. Also, I'm totally okay with it. Midlife crisis definitely happened for me, and might actually have been my internal age adjusting to my external one. Makes me wonder if I'll feel 47 for the rest of my life...
- gwbas1c 4y agoI agree. I felt like a "kid" throughout college and the first few years after, but then I moved away from my college friends and felt like a 20-something. I felt like a 20-something until my late 30s when I had children. When my third kid came, I felt like I skipped my 30s and turned 40... right before my 40th birthday.
- lisper 4y agoYep. I'm going through the exact same thing with the exact same results.
- wiredfool 4y agoMy dad subjectively aged about 10 years when my sister died in her 30's. It was like a switch from Adultish to Elderly.
- whatevertrevor 4y agoSame for my dad when my grandfather died. He was 50 then but he overnight started feeling like 50+ instead of having the mid-30s energy to his soul even if certain parts of his body (joints mainly) were no longer cooperating.
- srean 4y agoPeople do not age so much according to calendar years. It is incidents and experiences that age you
- xen2xen1 4y agoYes. My father's death and my mother going in a nursing home has affected my view (late 40s) of myself a lot. I mostly ignore my age and refuse to "be old", but that's getting harder and harder.