Generally we don’t like to think of ourselves as hurting others to make us feel good - we’ll come up with all kinds of excuses: we’re only trying to help, they

Generally we don’t like to think of ourselves as hurting others to make us feel good - we’ll come up with all kinds of excuses: we’re only trying to help, they shouldn’t have been hurt anyway, they deserved it, I didn’t mean it that way, yadda yadda yadda. Ultimately they’re all just excuses. The truth is, it feels good to hurt other people, that truth makes most people deeply uncomfortable, and will concoct nearly any excuse to cope with that cognitive dissonance. Nobody likes to think of themself as a bad guy.