You seem to have come to learn that reality is different than what you were told in your upbringing. A therapist can help you come to grips with accepting the u

You seem to have come to learn that reality is different than what you were told in your upbringing. A therapist can help you come to grips with accepting the uncomfortable truth (like: humans are shallow, humans follow mating strategies founded in intrinsic, often immutable, qualities over personal development, etc.) without externalising it negatively, e.g. misogyny. Maybe you will come to reevaluate assumptions, realise that this slice of human behaviour is just like nature made us, and the instincts chiefly drive our behaviour here and feelings like respect or honour are simply misplaced and part of the previously lived illusion.