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First, realize that women are just people too and "ninety percent of everything is crap." If you do wish to marry and settle down, you need only ONE good woman

First, realize that women are just people too and "ninety percent of everything is crap." If you do wish to marry and settle down, you need only ONE good woman and you need to NOT crap all over her the minute you meet her because of baggage. 1. Very beautiful women sometimes set up dating profiles with no photos or take other measures to attract men for reasons other than how photogenic they are. 2. Hobbies are a good way to meet people you have things in common with and can present the opportunity to get to know someone socially before you get jiggy. 3. Sometimes introductions via friends can work out. If you are genuinely friends with someone and they know someone that they have sized up and concluded they are not a nutter, etc, sometimes that works surprisingly well.

causticthrow 4y ago
Hey Doreen - hope you’re doing better. 1. I haven’t done online dating at all. What I’ve seen in real life is hit and miss. I know too much of the corporate world. Marital affairs, sleeping for promotions, sex parties with upper management/C-levels, you name it. 2. I have hobbies in the arts where I excel, am recognized, and there are lots of women. 3. My closest friends are hardcore players which doesn’t help. While your list would be good for someone looking for a date and/or a way to stand out, in my case it doesn’t help. Rebuilding trust when I’m surrounded by what I equate to vipers isn’t a matter of finding someone good. Even if I did, I wouldn’t trust them based on past experiences and things I see day to day.
- DoreenMichele 4y ago
  Well, what's your goal here? Are you wanting to establish a committed, long-term relationship? Are you wanting to sleep alone and be left the hell alone and retrieve some piece of yourself from the meat grinder it's been put through?
- justinclift 4y ago
  Maybe try creating a Tinder profile but er... "fuck up" your picture so that although it's still you, it's not as an attractive version of yourself? You know, super shitty angle, bad lighting, maybe shitty camera blur, etc? If that gets too many matches, kill the profile, fuck up the pic(s) even more, and try again? Try and get the match threshold down to low numbers, and maybe you'll be finding people more to your liking?
- consilient 4y ago
  > Rebuilding trust when I’m surrounded by what I equate to vipers isn’t a matter of finding someone good. So stop surrounding yourself with vipers. The C-suite isn't "real life", it's one very narrow and very highly selected slice of it. If you want to avoid ruthless social climbers, almost any other environment would be a better bet.
- dwaltrip 4y ago
  Find a good therapist. They can help you with this. And get new friends, people who treat other people well.

causticthrow 4y ago

Hey Doreen - hope you’re doing better. 1. I haven’t done online dating at all. What I’ve seen in real life is hit and miss. I know too much of the corporate world. Marital affairs, sleeping for promotions, sex parties with upper management/C-levels, you name it. 2. I have hobbies in the arts where I excel, am recognized, and there are lots of women. 3. My closest friends are hardcore players which doesn’t help. While your list would be good for someone looking for a date and/or a way to stand out, in my case it doesn’t help. Rebuilding trust when I’m surrounded by what I equate to vipers isn’t a matter of finding someone good. Even if I did, I wouldn’t trust them based on past experiences and things I see day to day.

DoreenMichele 4y ago
Well, what's your goal here? Are you wanting to establish a committed, long-term relationship? Are you wanting to sleep alone and be left the hell alone and retrieve some piece of yourself from the meat grinder it's been put through?
justinclift 4y ago
Maybe try creating a Tinder profile but er... "fuck up" your picture so that although it's still you, it's not as an attractive version of yourself? You know, super shitty angle, bad lighting, maybe shitty camera blur, etc? If that gets too many matches, kill the profile, fuck up the pic(s) even more, and try again? Try and get the match threshold down to low numbers, and maybe you'll be finding people more to your liking?
consilient 4y ago
> Rebuilding trust when I’m surrounded by what I equate to vipers isn’t a matter of finding someone good. So stop surrounding yourself with vipers. The C-suite isn't "real life", it's one very narrow and very highly selected slice of it. If you want to avoid ruthless social climbers, almost any other environment would be a better bet.
dwaltrip 4y ago
Find a good therapist. They can help you with this. And get new friends, people who treat other people well.