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I thought I was a fairly attractive guy. I’ve had interest from attractive women in the past. On dating apps though? Crickets. I’ve had several friends vet my p

I thought I was a fairly attractive guy. I’ve had interest from attractive women in the past. On dating apps though? Crickets. I’ve had several friends vet my profile (who were quite brutal with their feedback, too) but I still only average around 1 match per week. If I’m supposed to be a somewhat attractive guy, I can imagine the vast majority of men must be getting no interest at all.

operatingthetan 4y ago
I think the poster above you seems to have factors related to their appeal that they aren't considering and thus are improperly generalizing their experience. E.g. they have finely tuned tinder game. That doesn't in any way support the idea that women are only attracted to a small subset of men. That's an idea taken literally from the incel crowd.
- dorkwood 4y ago
  > That doesn't in any way support the idea that women are only attracted to a small subset of men. That's an idea taken literally from the incel crowd. Well, to be fair, that’s not exactly what I was saying. Despite replying to that poster, I was half echoing Scott Galloway’s comment that on dating apps the top 20% of attractive men get 60% of the interest. I didn’t check his sources, but it doesn’t seem like an unrealistic assertion to me, or a belief that only someone with a twisted world view might have, as you seem to be implying.
koonsolo 4y ago
> I’ve had several friends vet my profile Female or male friends?
- dorkwood 4y ago
  Two female, two male.
bmn__ 4y ago
> I thought I was a fairly attractive guy. By sheer statistical chance alone, you are a normie (middle of the bell curve, where most people are) and overrate yourself. > I’ve had several friends vet my profile Seek out an unbiased attractiveness rating done by people who actually know the science, for example ratebywaffles. I bet that your friends received no training or sought to read the relevant sociology and psychology papers, so can't have more than a gut feeling and are basically clueless/misinformed about what the actual criteria are.
- dorkwood 4y ago
  You may very well be right. I can really only go off what others tell me, and whether attractive women found me attractive in the past (although I suppose there could have been other contributing factors). I hadn’t heard of ratebywaffles. I might try it out. I’m sure it will be a hit to the self esteem, but it seems like it would ultimately be a good thing if it means developing a more accurate picture of myself.
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xnx 4y ago
How tall are you?
- tennisflyi 4y ago
  I'm 6'1" (and white). Pussy still doesn't just fall into my lap. You're either a """manlet""" or 6'+ and intimidating. Fucked either way.

operatingthetan 4y ago

I think the poster above you seems to have factors related to their appeal that they aren't considering and thus are improperly generalizing their experience. E.g. they have finely tuned tinder game. That doesn't in any way support the idea that women are only attracted to a small subset of men. That's an idea taken literally from the incel crowd.

dorkwood 4y ago
> That doesn't in any way support the idea that women are only attracted to a small subset of men. That's an idea taken literally from the incel crowd. Well, to be fair, that’s not exactly what I was saying. Despite replying to that poster, I was half echoing Scott Galloway’s comment that on dating apps the top 20% of attractive men get 60% of the interest. I didn’t check his sources, but it doesn’t seem like an unrealistic assertion to me, or a belief that only someone with a twisted world view might have, as you seem to be implying.

koonsolo 4y ago

> I’ve had several friends vet my profile Female or male friends?

dorkwood 4y ago
Two female, two male.

bmn__ 4y ago

> I thought I was a fairly attractive guy. By sheer statistical chance alone, you are a normie (middle of the bell curve, where most people are) and overrate yourself. > I’ve had several friends vet my profile Seek out an unbiased attractiveness rating done by people who actually know the science, for example ratebywaffles. I bet that your friends received no training or sought to read the relevant sociology and psychology papers, so can't have more than a gut feeling and are basically clueless/misinformed about what the actual criteria are.

dorkwood 4y ago
You may very well be right. I can really only go off what others tell me, and whether attractive women found me attractive in the past (although I suppose there could have been other contributing factors). I hadn’t heard of ratebywaffles. I might try it out. I’m sure it will be a hit to the self esteem, but it seems like it would ultimately be a good thing if it means developing a more accurate picture of myself.
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xnx 4y ago

How tall are you?

tennisflyi 4y ago
I'm 6'1" (and white). Pussy still doesn't just fall into my lap. You're either a """manlet""" or 6'+ and intimidating. Fucked either way.