I don't believe I suggested otherwise. My point is that if that's the argument, as I agree it should be, then make that argument - make that argument, with clar

I don't believe I suggested otherwise. My point is that if that's the argument, as I agree it should be, then make that argument - make that argument, with clarity and precision. You're already well outside the received precepts of the culture you seek to improve, which means you are necessarily beginning under a cloud of suspicion and doubt. Take it from a gay man old enough to remember the 80s: You help yourself not at all by doing anything to further complicate your delivery of the message.