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Yes, but it's necessary. Because just be yourself works well in Disney movies, but IRL, we have social norms and many reward/punishment systems depending on ho
by BiteCode_dev 4y ago
Yes, but it's necessary.
Because just be yourself works well in Disney movies, but IRL, we have social norms and many reward/punishment systems depending on how much and often you deviate from them.
So you have to find a balance between being genuine and fitting in. Everybody does, but for some of us, it's more costly. Usually, the balance is achieved by having different groups in which you can adjust the cursor differently, like work, friends and family, if you are lucky.
- 11235813213455 4y agoThere's a difference between adaptation (you do your best to fit in, knowing yourself, but you accept your difference) and camouflaging (imply you're afraid of how you look to others, so this is paralysing you, it creates anxiety, etc..)
- itronitron 4y agoThat difference is self-confidence, and it's both foolish and disingenuous to label all people that have lacked self-confidence at some point as autistic.
- kelseyfrog 4y agoEveryone who camouflages once expressed themselves to the world.
- BiteCode_dev 4y agoWhen you are on the spectrum, no, there isn't. It's not about you. It's about others. And a lot of it about what things appear, not what they are. That's not shocking to an autist. That's factual. We don't mind factual, we mind intent. Just like I don't mind what you state, I do mind the virtue signaling it attempts.
- Nasrudith 4y agoExcept when it comes to bullying. Apparently bullies can be themselves all they want and they get supported because reasons.
- BiteCode_dev 4y agoIn school yes, because it's a very peculiar microcosm. Outside it varies a lot.