So this is the part that I've focused on too, and I don't think it's clear that it's worse, but it's clear that there are no good options; we're left with tryin

So this is the part that I've focused on too, and I don't think it's clear that it's worse, but it's clear that there are no good options; we're left with trying to identify the least worst option across a number of dimensions. In college I chose to go to bed early and abstain from alcohol, which seems similar to this. It was definitely isolating. On the other hand, it ensured that my few friends were people who actually shared my (apparently strange) values. But I did it voluntarily. If someone's parents tried to make them go to bed early and restrict them from drinking in college, that seems like it could lead to a lot of resentment.