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Obviously the help isn’t available to these people.

by plonk 4y ago

GalenErso 4y ago
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- c7DJTLrn 4y ago
  You are so clueless I don't even know where to start.
  - GalenErso 4y ago
    Please, do tell.
    - ok_dad 4y ago
      If I suggest you buy a battery for your car with a flat tire, then there is no explanation needed when you say, "You are so clueless I don't even know where to start."
    - MonkeyMalarky 4y ago
      It takes a lot of confidence and extroversion to fly solo at a festival or event, meet people there, and leave with lasting connections (not just someone you follow on Instagram and never interact with again). The kind of confidence and extroversion that if those people had, they wouldn't be relying on chatbots in the first place?
    - plonk 4y ago
      People see when you're unhappy. If you're chronically so, they'll stay away most of the time. Source: I was this way for a few years. There's a point where, if your life sucks enough and you don't have the social skills to hide it, you can be stuck in a bad place with no obvious way to get help. Maybe paying for a therapist will help, or maybe you won't have the money, the waiting lists will be too long, your country's healthcare system will limit you to wrong matches. If this way doesn't work, what's your next step?
      - creata 4y ago
        > I was this way for a few years. Out of curiosity, what changed?
        plonk 4y ago
        Many reasons I can see: - I traveled, met people who had had a much better life and way more success, and basically got angry/ashamed enough that mine sucked that I got motivated to change it, - I cut ties with a couple friends/family members who had issues of their own (that they refused to work on), - I'm a competent tech worker, which means no money issues, less stress, social contact through school/work, and the morale boost of one part of my life going right at least, - having a few good (now remote) friends who helped me navigate through things. People who stay in bad situations probably don't have most of these things. GGP doesn't seem to know how hard it can be to fix this. Years after the bad times, I still have some social/emotional issues. And these were mild problems.
- pizza234 4y ago
  Relationship disorders are more complex than just not meeting women (as in "going out"). A part of those who are not able to get a partner may solve their problem by "just" meeting women, but for many, there are significant psychological issues.
- ss108 4y ago
  Jesus, I wish I could downvote this 50 times. What do you expect a guy who forms an emotional relationship with a chatbot thing to accomplish with a dating app? Most likely would only induce further despair because he would get few, if any, likes.

Obviously the help isn’t available to these people.

by plonk 4y ago

Obviously the help isn’t available to these people.

GalenErso 4y ago

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c7DJTLrn 4y ago
You are so clueless I don't even know where to start.
- GalenErso 4y ago
  Please, do tell.
  - ok_dad 4y ago
    If I suggest you buy a battery for your car with a flat tire, then there is no explanation needed when you say, "You are so clueless I don't even know where to start."
  - MonkeyMalarky 4y ago
    It takes a lot of confidence and extroversion to fly solo at a festival or event, meet people there, and leave with lasting connections (not just someone you follow on Instagram and never interact with again). The kind of confidence and extroversion that if those people had, they wouldn't be relying on chatbots in the first place?
  - plonk 4y ago
    People see when you're unhappy. If you're chronically so, they'll stay away most of the time. Source: I was this way for a few years. There's a point where, if your life sucks enough and you don't have the social skills to hide it, you can be stuck in a bad place with no obvious way to get help. Maybe paying for a therapist will help, or maybe you won't have the money, the waiting lists will be too long, your country's healthcare system will limit you to wrong matches. If this way doesn't work, what's your next step?
    - creata 4y ago
      > I was this way for a few years. Out of curiosity, what changed?
      - plonk 4y ago
        Many reasons I can see: - I traveled, met people who had had a much better life and way more success, and basically got angry/ashamed enough that mine sucked that I got motivated to change it, - I cut ties with a couple friends/family members who had issues of their own (that they refused to work on), - I'm a competent tech worker, which means no money issues, less stress, social contact through school/work, and the morale boost of one part of my life going right at least, - having a few good (now remote) friends who helped me navigate through things. People who stay in bad situations probably don't have most of these things. GGP doesn't seem to know how hard it can be to fix this. Years after the bad times, I still have some social/emotional issues. And these were mild problems.
pizza234 4y ago
Relationship disorders are more complex than just not meeting women (as in "going out"). A part of those who are not able to get a partner may solve their problem by "just" meeting women, but for many, there are significant psychological issues.
ss108 4y ago
Jesus, I wish I could downvote this 50 times. What do you expect a guy who forms an emotional relationship with a chatbot thing to accomplish with a dating app? Most likely would only induce further despair because he would get few, if any, likes.