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Whenever I read things like this I feel like I must be an alien or have something pathologically wrong with me or something like that. I can hang out with peopl

Whenever I read things like this I feel like I must be an alien or have something pathologically wrong with me or something like that. I can hang out with people, I think. I just don't like to. I have been in an exclusive romantic relationship for decades, and I am reasonably social when it comes to task-based things, but gathering with people in unfocused social situations is best case an obligation and worst case fills we with something approaching dread. I am very happy working on my own things, discussing things on the internet, hanging out with spouse, etc. I am also happy to participate in things that revolve around getting something productive done, or communicating asynchronously in a way that allows consensual focus - when people can send me a message that I can respond to whenever I want, and vice versa. To me, it seems like society is just slowly starting to adapt to communicating in the way that I like to communicate. Selfishly, it's great. I have tried and failed to understand how it's a bad thing, but I have trouble doing so.

drukenemo 4y ago
On a very similar boat, I can relate to what you’re saying. I would just like to hang out with some pals a few times a year (so not every week like many). But it can be difficult to keep relationships close seeing each other not that often, but I guess technology can help us with that.
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MythEng 4y ago
I used to think that I was like this until I moved somewhere that forced it to be my only way to socialize. Ultimately it ended in a lot of depression and moving again. Learned a lot about myself during that time and in the end I feel like I know much more about myself than I did before. On a similar note, I've noticed that a lot of my friends are more willing to hang out post-pandemic as they all feel like we lost too much time being stuck at home.

drukenemo 4y ago

On a very similar boat, I can relate to what you’re saying. I would just like to hang out with some pals a few times a year (so not every week like many). But it can be difficult to keep relationships close seeing each other not that often, but I guess technology can help us with that.

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MythEng 4y ago

I used to think that I was like this until I moved somewhere that forced it to be my only way to socialize. Ultimately it ended in a lot of depression and moving again. Learned a lot about myself during that time and in the end I feel like I know much more about myself than I did before. On a similar note, I've noticed that a lot of my friends are more willing to hang out post-pandemic as they all feel like we lost too much time being stuck at home.