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My wife has been on a worker visa, and while our situations have been different than yours, I can sympathize with the hopeless feeling on that front. It is a te
by bmitc 4y ago
My wife has been on a worker visa, and while our situations have been different than yours, I can sympathize with the hopeless feeling on that front. It is a terrible feeling, and it is truly a feeling of hopelessness. My one recommendation is to focus on being in the present and what you can do right now. That sounds cliche, but you gotta focus on things that are within your control at this moment. While the layoffs and U.S. visa system are terrible and broken, it's ok to accept that brokenness, but it is bad to wallow in it and let your thoughts escape you and feedback over and over. Think about what you can do now, now as in the next 5 minutes, then 30 minutes, then 1 hour. Hug your spouse, cook your next meal, apply for jobs, etc. Maybe take a day or two without applying for jobs and take a hike or a small day trip or something with your spouse.
What about contacting your former company? What about your former boss or bosses there, a colleague, HR person, or all of these? If the layoffs were 6 months ago, it's always possible they are rehiring, even for your exact former position. Don't be afraid to explain your situation to them.
If you are on a dependent visa, does that mean you aren't in danger of having to leave the U.S.? I'm not sure if your spouse is a U.S. citizen or not, but are you allowed to apply for work authorization under whatever dependent visa you're on?
> I’m parked outside a Burger King parking lot in the car by myself and don’t have a clue on what I should do.
If you have any amount of insurance, please try to find a doctor, any doctor including your PCP, and get recommended to see a psychiatrist and therapist as soon as possible. If you don't have insurance, I'm not exactly sure of the steps, but you could still see a previous PCP or any family doctor to get some pointers and advice of how to move forward. That is what they are there for, and you definitely need it. Please follow through on this. You gotta make the phone calls.
In the meantime, do your best to eat well, get sleep, and try to work out in any way possible, even something as simple as morning and evening walks. You should see a doctor, but these are ways to help your body relieve itself of stress.