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The problem with normalising things is that it tends to become an expectation. An environment where people are open about their personal well being is challengi
by potamic 4y ago
The problem with normalising things is that it tends to become an expectation. An environment where people are open about their personal well being is challenging for someone who needs privacy. The one who takes unexplained time off risks appearing insincere. I feel it's more inclusive to insist on not discussing personal situations in public. If you need time off, just take time off. Every person is different and will have their own needs and situations. I don't need to know why and even if I did, it is has zero bearing on the matter, unless we share a personal relationship.
- miiiiiike 4y agoWe're saying the say thing but it appears that we're not because you're taking my argument to places I wouldn't. I'm for professionals saying whatever they feel they need to say so that they can be understood and perceived in the way they want to be perceived and understood. If not talking about something causes stress, talking about it could help. If talking about it causes stress, don't talk about it. I work with people around the globe so knowing my sleep schedule helps the people who work with me. For example, I don't like reviewing UX, visual design, or anything involving RxJS when I'm tired. I know this, they know this, so I review things when I'm rested. Similarly I want to know what the people around me need me to know. Let professionals decide. "Culturally" the scales shouldn't be tilted too far in either direction. Also talking about different types of people.. Moving from an expectation of an instant response to the expectation of a 24-ish-hour response does wonders for communication. Let people think and maybe sleep on it. Keeps the in the moment thinkers from steamrolling the nap and shower thinkers. Does wonders.