You seem to be upset about identity politics, but then proceed to make an argument about identity and social acceptance. None of these details you mention are r

You seem to be upset about identity politics, but then proceed to make an argument about identity and social acceptance. None of these details you mention are relevant to the actual problem. Anyway, there's much clearer evidence supporting the idea that poor mental health (anxiety, depression, etc.) can cause infertility in men due to elevated levels of cortisol, and you sound very stressed out.