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As a millennial that developed a shopping obsession for a few months last year, it made me miserable. Every time I bought something I’d be thinking about what I

As a millennial that developed a shopping obsession for a few months last year, it made me miserable. Every time I bought something I’d be thinking about what I needed to buy next to solve the (very minor) problems the new thing created. Endless research trying to buy the right thing.I’d buy something and get some dopamine for 5 minutes then have buyers remorse for days. I cut all that off and I feel so much better. I have learned how to love the things I have instead of finding flaws for an excuse to buy the next thing.

bennysonething 4y ago
This is exactly what happened to me last year. I used to be pretty frugal. Rarely replaced computers or other consumer electronics. Then I ended up buying a mid range sound bar. A very good oled TV. And a graphics card. Really stupid. It cost me more than mone, it was all the time researching, reading endless reviews. Configuring it all.
- t3rabytes 4y ago
  > it was all the time researching, reading endless reviews Interesting. This is actually where the dopamine hit comes from for me -- being educated at the things I want to buy at the rest for whatever price-point and goal I'm trying to achieve, whether that's something for the house (TV) or something related to a hobby (bike, espresso machine, etc).
- tippytippytango 4y ago
  Yes, it really is the time more than the money. When you realize how much time was spent trying to decide if it’s worth paying an extra $200 for a feature… ouch
- midoridensha 4y ago
  I don't see what's stupid about this. How often do you replace your sound bar or TV? I bought some nice monitors for my PC setup 1-2 years ago after a bunch of research, but they were replacing 10+ year old monitors. I don't expect to replace the new ones any time soon, so it's not like I'm doing endless research on computer monitors. I stopped after I got these. Now I just enjoy them. I also got a TV and soundbar less than 6 months ago after lots of research; I no longer research those things at all. I'll probably keep both of them for many years too.
  - bennysonething 4y ago
    Last time I bought speakers before this was 2007! Last TV was 2013. Previously I'd managed to run a pc made of second hand parts from 2008 to 2017 with no upgrades. I think you are correct in a way. I do like the TV and sound bar. But also I'm wary of the addictiveness of reading reviews, upselling myself to higher specs and higher price than I'd originally intended. There does seem to be some sort of dopamine hit with researching options.
    - midoridensha 4y ago
      I think you're overthinking it. If you're buying something that's going to last for 10 years, spending 20% more for higher specs probably isn't a waste of money, if you actually use and like those extra features. It's better than getting the cheap base model and then being unhappy with it and wanting a better one in a year or two. With a higher-spec model, you probably won't feel the urge to replace it so quickly.
      - bennysonething 4y ago
        True. However on the TV I spent about 300 percent higher than I originally set out to! Probably the only very high end thing I've ever bought though.
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thefz 4y ago
> Endless research trying to buy the right thing.I’d buy something and get some dopamine for 5 minutes then have buyers remorse for days. I have a workaround: I do the endless research part, then close the browser and don't buy aanything. Hell, the best part is doing your homework.
- Ekaros 4y ago
  I just end up reading the 1 star reviews. And then I end up not buying anything...
- wing-_-nuts 4y ago
  I've had multiple co workers over the years throw up their hands in frustration and tell me to just. buy. the damn thing! I tend to do an unhealthy amount of analysis over every car or gadget I purchase. To be honest I would be much further ahead in life if I put that same level of energy towards bettering myself as a developer.
- midoridensha 4y ago
  I do a bunch of research, get disgusted with the lousy choices, then don't buy anything.
thih9 4y ago
> Every time I bought something I’d be thinking about what I needed to buy next to solve the (very minor) problems the new thing created Also known as Diderot effect; https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diderot_effect https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diderot_effect

bennysonething 4y ago

This is exactly what happened to me last year. I used to be pretty frugal. Rarely replaced computers or other consumer electronics. Then I ended up buying a mid range sound bar. A very good oled TV. And a graphics card. Really stupid. It cost me more than mone, it was all the time researching, reading endless reviews. Configuring it all.

t3rabytes 4y ago
> it was all the time researching, reading endless reviews Interesting. This is actually where the dopamine hit comes from for me -- being educated at the things I want to buy at the rest for whatever price-point and goal I'm trying to achieve, whether that's something for the house (TV) or something related to a hobby (bike, espresso machine, etc).
tippytippytango 4y ago
Yes, it really is the time more than the money. When you realize how much time was spent trying to decide if it’s worth paying an extra $200 for a feature… ouch
midoridensha 4y ago
I don't see what's stupid about this. How often do you replace your sound bar or TV? I bought some nice monitors for my PC setup 1-2 years ago after a bunch of research, but they were replacing 10+ year old monitors. I don't expect to replace the new ones any time soon, so it's not like I'm doing endless research on computer monitors. I stopped after I got these. Now I just enjoy them. I also got a TV and soundbar less than 6 months ago after lots of research; I no longer research those things at all. I'll probably keep both of them for many years too.
- bennysonething 4y ago
  Last time I bought speakers before this was 2007! Last TV was 2013. Previously I'd managed to run a pc made of second hand parts from 2008 to 2017 with no upgrades. I think you are correct in a way. I do like the TV and sound bar. But also I'm wary of the addictiveness of reading reviews, upselling myself to higher specs and higher price than I'd originally intended. There does seem to be some sort of dopamine hit with researching options.
  - midoridensha 4y ago
    I think you're overthinking it. If you're buying something that's going to last for 10 years, spending 20% more for higher specs probably isn't a waste of money, if you actually use and like those extra features. It's better than getting the cheap base model and then being unhappy with it and wanting a better one in a year or two. With a higher-spec model, you probably won't feel the urge to replace it so quickly.
    - bennysonething 4y ago
      True. However on the TV I spent about 300 percent higher than I originally set out to! Probably the only very high end thing I've ever bought though.

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thefz 4y ago

> Endless research trying to buy the right thing.I’d buy something and get some dopamine for 5 minutes then have buyers remorse for days. I have a workaround: I do the endless research part, then close the browser and don't buy aanything. Hell, the best part is doing your homework.

Ekaros 4y ago
I just end up reading the 1 star reviews. And then I end up not buying anything...
wing-_-nuts 4y ago
I've had multiple co workers over the years throw up their hands in frustration and tell me to just. buy. the damn thing! I tend to do an unhealthy amount of analysis over every car or gadget I purchase. To be honest I would be much further ahead in life if I put that same level of energy towards bettering myself as a developer.
midoridensha 4y ago
I do a bunch of research, get disgusted with the lousy choices, then don't buy anything.

thih9 4y ago

> Every time I bought something I’d be thinking about what I needed to buy next to solve the (very minor) problems the new thing created Also known as Diderot effect; https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diderot_effect https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diderot_effect