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Not romantically or sexually attracted to my sister, my auntie, anyone too old for me, anyone too young for me, anyone who smokes, anyone who belittles waitstaf

by dijit 4y ago

Not romantically or sexually attracted to my sister, my auntie, anyone too old for me, anyone too young for me, anyone who smokes, anyone who belittles waitstaff, peopke who overindulge (fillers, etc), people with hairy armpits, people who have strong masculine traits, people who do not wash to my standard etc;etc;etc; There's limitless numbers of people I am genuinely not attracted to, are you saying they can't be my friends either? Even the study you cite says “some” of the people started catching feelings. I much more readily believe that you are either attracted or you're not, and while thats subject to change with appearance changes and so on, it is basically normal to have people you’re not (and are extremely unlikely to be) attracted to.

jdthedisciple 4y ago
Obviously excluding family, since I'm appealing to nature. You're not naturally sexually attracted to your immediate family members, i.e. it would be a deviation form the norm if that occurred. But I can't believe that's your best retort to my argument, when it should be quite obvious that's not what I'm referring to. And yes you may not be attracted to them, but that doesn't mean some of them aren't to you. Also it's important to understand I'm not saying you're immediately attracted to any female. That is not my argument. So it's pointless to point out you're not attracted to some random girl who smokes. I'm simply saying that given a male and female forming a friendship, there is every reason to expect that OVER TIME, at least one of the two's affection will reach sexual levels.
- dijit 4y ago
  My point was that there are plenty of people I’m not attracted to, not just family, whole entire categories of people. I am also not exactly attractive. So I see no reason to believe they are attracted to me. You just assume too much here for me to take it seriously. If you are saying, sincerely, that every woman I am friends with is secretly attracted to me then I’m going to have some really awkward conversations. I have plenty of friends who are women, it feels so ordinary that I can’t even imagine a world where this is not normal.

by dijit 4y ago

jdthedisciple 4y ago

Obviously excluding family, since I'm appealing to nature. You're not naturally sexually attracted to your immediate family members, i.e. it would be a deviation form the norm if that occurred. But I can't believe that's your best retort to my argument, when it should be quite obvious that's not what I'm referring to. And yes you may not be attracted to them, but that doesn't mean some of them aren't to you. Also it's important to understand I'm not saying you're immediately attracted to any female. That is not my argument. So it's pointless to point out you're not attracted to some random girl who smokes. I'm simply saying that given a male and female forming a friendship, there is every reason to expect that OVER TIME, at least one of the two's affection will reach sexual levels.

dijit 4y ago
My point was that there are plenty of people I’m not attracted to, not just family, whole entire categories of people. I am also not exactly attractive. So I see no reason to believe they are attracted to me. You just assume too much here for me to take it seriously. If you are saying, sincerely, that every woman I am friends with is secretly attracted to me then I’m going to have some really awkward conversations. I have plenty of friends who are women, it feels so ordinary that I can’t even imagine a world where this is not normal.