> "I am handicapped in the looks department" is pretty depressing. Conversely (and as you hinted at), "I'm only liked for my looks," illustrates the double-bi

> "I am handicapped in the looks department" is pretty depressing. Conversely (and as you hinted at), "I'm only liked for my looks," illustrates the double-bind at play. Yes, it's difficult to shift societal norms but I encourage folks to ask themselves, "Which other norms shifted in the last hundred years?" and how that was accomplished.