Sorry I misread your message. I may be projecting. I see over optimization as a problem, to live is to suffer and experience all of life good and bad. We would

Sorry I misread your message. I may be projecting. I see over optimization as a problem, to live is to suffer and experience all of life good and bad. We would always rather not suffer, even when to suffer is humanizing or good for us. We admire princess Diana for waiting in line at Disney with her children when she could have easily cut them. That is uncommon. I used to choose comfort but I see it as severely hiding myself of the human experience to emphasize with others.