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It’s a protection mechanism for ones ego. Because if you “don’t try” you always have an excuse for why you’re not doing as well as the “nerds” at school. If yo
by j7ake 4y ago
It’s a protection mechanism for ones ego. Because if you “don’t try” you always have an excuse for why you’re not doing as well as the “nerds” at school.
If you do “try” but you don’t get a top result, what would that say to a kids fragile ego ? They might think they’re not good at all.
By trying, you reveal your capabilities (as well as your limitations), and that can be terrifying for a kid with a fragile ego.
The correct mentality is to focus on the process, rather than the result.
The result doesn’t matter (especially for kids) as long as you focus on training and improving yourself.
- eulenteufel 4y agoA problem with this attitude is how schools and their grading systems are teaching children the exact opposite. What matters are your grades in the end. I feel like judging myself by my results and not by the process im going through was so deeply ingrained in me that even after years of trying I cannot get rid of it.
- pksebben 4y agoSO is a high school teacher. This is her primary complaint about how we do things today. She talks a lot about the book Grading for Equity. I'm of the opinion that traditional schooling is a bit of a zombie. There just isn't a way for an institution with that much inertia to keep up with a world that releases generalized search and chat-capable LLMs within 20 years of each other. Especially considering they're so underfunded that in places you don't even need to know a subject to get a job teaching it, because they don't have enough SMEs willing to work at the pay.