You need to find out what (s)he is thinking AND how she got there (who has she been talking to)! You may need to ask her to talk to someone else trustworthy. I'

You need to find out what (s)he is thinking AND how she got there (who has she been talking to)! You may need to ask her to talk to someone else trustworthy. I'd suggest an older male therapist. Meanwhile you need to probe friends & family to find out what they've been telling her as well. What is the origin story for this wish to be a girl? I'm absolutely with you about waiting.