> This statement above, intended or not, comes across as dismissive My thought as well. It gives me slight "victim-blaming" vibes, "If you would've defended yo

> This statement above, intended or not, comes across as dismissive My thought as well. It gives me slight "victim-blaming" vibes, "If you would've defended yourself you wouldn't be traumatized now." If it would be that easy to prevent trauma, it wouldn't be such an issue. Trauma is not a decision, the only influence you have is how well you're able to handle it after it occurs, and even then it can be overwhelming for some and they need external help or even medication. Now I'm not saying that OP is a bad person for thinking what they think, but they shouldn't generalize mental health issues just because they experienced them in a certain way. Same can be applied to depression, burnout, suicidal thoughts etc. If you're able to handle these things without issues, perfect! Good for you. Just don't apply this to every other depressed/burned out/suicidal person.