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Don't know why this is downvoted. It is an observation I and many others share. The mental anguish comes more from feeling helpless than from the actual danger.

Don't know why this is downvoted. It is an observation I and many others share. The mental anguish comes more from feeling helpless than from the actual danger. This is not to say (and the parent post doesn't say it either) that you can or should take action in all situations. Only that perceived agency or the lack of can have a greater effect on your mental health than the objective circumstances.

npteljes 4y ago
It probably comes from this statement: >I never got PTSD from it because I stood my ground. PTSD comes from trauma, and trauma is subjective. This statement above, intended or not, comes across as dismissive.
- 4ggr0 4y ago
  > This statement above, intended or not, comes across as dismissive My thought as well. It gives me slight "victim-blaming" vibes, "If you would've defended yourself you wouldn't be traumatized now." If it would be that easy to prevent trauma, it wouldn't be such an issue. Trauma is not a decision, the only influence you have is how well you're able to handle it after it occurs, and even then it can be overwhelming for some and they need external help or even medication. Now I'm not saying that OP is a bad person for thinking what they think, but they shouldn't generalize mental health issues just because they experienced them in a certain way. Same can be applied to depression, burnout, suicidal thoughts etc. If you're able to handle these things without issues, perfect! Good for you. Just don't apply this to every other depressed/burned out/suicidal person.
  - graphe 4y ago
    I didn't generalize. You did. You projected every "I" and "me" into "everybody" and "everyone" and I find your behavior mentally stifling and uninformed. You haven't been in my situation, you haven't gotten past it, and yet you pretend to be the expert on my experiences. You're trying to be helpful... by dismissing everything I wrote with sweet words and redefining everything. Why don't you share your experience instead of whatever you're doing?

npteljes 4y ago

It probably comes from this statement: >I never got PTSD from it because I stood my ground. PTSD comes from trauma, and trauma is subjective. This statement above, intended or not, comes across as dismissive.

4ggr0 4y ago
> This statement above, intended or not, comes across as dismissive My thought as well. It gives me slight "victim-blaming" vibes, "If you would've defended yourself you wouldn't be traumatized now." If it would be that easy to prevent trauma, it wouldn't be such an issue. Trauma is not a decision, the only influence you have is how well you're able to handle it after it occurs, and even then it can be overwhelming for some and they need external help or even medication. Now I'm not saying that OP is a bad person for thinking what they think, but they shouldn't generalize mental health issues just because they experienced them in a certain way. Same can be applied to depression, burnout, suicidal thoughts etc. If you're able to handle these things without issues, perfect! Good for you. Just don't apply this to every other depressed/burned out/suicidal person.
- graphe 4y ago
  I didn't generalize. You did. You projected every "I" and "me" into "everybody" and "everyone" and I find your behavior mentally stifling and uninformed. You haven't been in my situation, you haven't gotten past it, and yet you pretend to be the expert on my experiences. You're trying to be helpful... by dismissing everything I wrote with sweet words and redefining everything. Why don't you share your experience instead of whatever you're doing?