Yes, you’re right and I’ve been obscene and annoying. I’m sorry. I have kids and know many parents. I think it’s odd to use these ancillary reasons as motivatio

Yes, you’re right and I’ve been obscene and annoying. I’m sorry. I have kids and know many parents. I think it’s odd to use these ancillary reasons as motivations for having kids because the change to your life is so huge and profound (and the implications of creating a new human are even bigger!), so that the idea that a person would embark on that as a mechanism to solve their social problems is a baffling way to look at it to me. Words can’t even describe the profundity of the impact. It would be like joining the military to get green clothes. Also, it doesn’t even work. Sure, you’ll talk to other parents at bbqs and kid birthday parties. But you mostly won’t have time for a meaningful social life, because it’s work, kids, bed for many years. And the social events you do have are severely constrained by the presence of kids. You just wait to find out how much nap and eating schedules dominate your life, and how meaningful of a conversation you can have with these parents while you’re both parenting. Not only do you have little social time, but you will not having YOU time and will lose a big part of your current identity as a result. A major part of your life is redirected into serving the needs of your kid, and you and your pleasure, and your social needs and whatever else go on the back burner. So forgive me for being snarky, but this strikes me as overwhelmingly absurd. And also I probably have low emotional energy due to taking care of kids after working all day…. But yes, fast forward 10 years and I’m sure it’s a different picture. But that’s quite the investment. I’d just join a trivia group or something.