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> kids hate it > moves to city for education and excitement >> "yeah dad moved us to the middle of no where when i was 10, i hated it" > gets high pace job

> kids hate it > moves to city for education and excitement >> "yeah dad moved us to the middle of no where when i was 10, i hated it" > gets high pace job >> "yeah I grew up on a small farm in the middle of no where, it was nice thb. my dad still lives there. here's bessy our cow." > starts family > sigma grind set to support family > gets burnt out > buys farm in middle of no where :GOTO 0

dsr_ 4y ago
You're jesting, but: my parents both grew up in major cities. When they could afford it, they moved out to a semirural town of 5000, with the larger towns 25 miles in each direction. All their kids moved back to cities.
- unethical_ban 4y ago
  I live in a city center and don't want to leave - in fact, I want to move to a larger city often. I'm also single and wish to have a life partner. If and when I find someone with whom I find peace and contentment to share my life with, I imagine being in the middle of the bustle won't be as necessary. (I'm aware I should not look for a life partner to make me at peace, but it sure would help).
- iamthepieman 4y ago
  We moved back to nowhere before our kids were out of the toddler stage. All they remember is rural life. Maybe that's the key? Not that I care if my kids move to a city. I'll have a place to stay while going to the museums. My parents moved us to an old dairy farm on 30 acres with only one other house on the road. 7 miles from a town of 6000 and 50 miles from the nearest Walmart. I loved it and only moved away after college because there were no jobs here. Moved back 3.5 years later because I could buy a house for 1/3 the cost while working remote for a "city salary" and because I missed raising animals.
  - floren 4y ago
    It's something I didn't appreciate as a kid. I had to immerse myself in constant city noise and hostility and filth for almost 2 decades to really start yearning to get back again.
    - BizarreByte 4y ago
      I’ll be honest I don’t really get why rural life appeals to those in the city. I think there’s a very romantic idea people have of rural life, which both does and doesn’t exist depending on location. I’ve done rural living my entire life and I’d much rather live in a city if it were a viable option. Even very basic things are far easier in the city and the city has things like emergency rooms that are open 24/7. I can’t assume my local hospital will be open if I hurt myself and the next is a ~100km drive away. Most rural areas are less hostile to your face, but the local rumour mill can be incredibly cruel and harmful behind one’s back should you not conform or if someone takes issue with you. A gay couple moved to my area and at least initially suffered greatly for it. I guess the grass isn’t necessarily greener in either direction, the challenges and issues are just different.
      - vladvasiliu 4y ago
        > I guess the grass isn’t necessarily greener in either direction, the challenges and issues are just different. This nails it. > I’ll be honest I don’t really get why rural life appeals to those in the city. There may be multiple reasons, to each their own. As a city-dweller since I was kid, the biggest issue, and the one that has me contemplate rural(-er) living, is the constant noise. The housing market being what it is, it's very hard to find well-insulated apartments. In France, there have been new construction regulations for noise insulation, but most of the apartments in Paris were built before that. You can more or less easily get an apartment that doesn't face a major road (or any road at all). But you can never get an apartment with no neighbors (unless you're extremely rich, which isn't my, nor most people's case).
        pard68 4y ago
- User23 4y ago
  How much of this is because of the boomer generation’s uniquely awful attitude towards their posterity and not rural life itself?
  - graphe 4y ago
    Rural life sucks. You know why they have so many kids? When you friends play it's fun until they die from farm accidents like falling into grain silos or machines. You can't childproof a farm. It's way easier to die from misadventures.
    - pard68 4y ago
      Most childhood deaths are from walking into a road or getting into a car accident.
floren 4y ago
I grew up on a farm and now I work a tech job & live in the bay area. I'm currently between stages 5 and 6, looking forward to the farm in the middle of nowhere stage.
- eddsh1994 4y ago
  Hahaha I'm in Palo Alto, grew up in a farm, and constantly look at places online to buy. Moving to Stockholm in August, hopefully the next stop after that will be a farm.

dsr_ 4y ago

You're jesting, but: my parents both grew up in major cities. When they could afford it, they moved out to a semirural town of 5000, with the larger towns 25 miles in each direction. All their kids moved back to cities.

unethical_ban 4y ago
I live in a city center and don't want to leave - in fact, I want to move to a larger city often. I'm also single and wish to have a life partner. If and when I find someone with whom I find peace and contentment to share my life with, I imagine being in the middle of the bustle won't be as necessary. (I'm aware I should not look for a life partner to make me at peace, but it sure would help).
iamthepieman 4y ago
We moved back to nowhere before our kids were out of the toddler stage. All they remember is rural life. Maybe that's the key? Not that I care if my kids move to a city. I'll have a place to stay while going to the museums. My parents moved us to an old dairy farm on 30 acres with only one other house on the road. 7 miles from a town of 6000 and 50 miles from the nearest Walmart. I loved it and only moved away after college because there were no jobs here. Moved back 3.5 years later because I could buy a house for 1/3 the cost while working remote for a "city salary" and because I missed raising animals.
- floren 4y ago
  It's something I didn't appreciate as a kid. I had to immerse myself in constant city noise and hostility and filth for almost 2 decades to really start yearning to get back again.
  - BizarreByte 4y ago
    I’ll be honest I don’t really get why rural life appeals to those in the city. I think there’s a very romantic idea people have of rural life, which both does and doesn’t exist depending on location. I’ve done rural living my entire life and I’d much rather live in a city if it were a viable option. Even very basic things are far easier in the city and the city has things like emergency rooms that are open 24/7. I can’t assume my local hospital will be open if I hurt myself and the next is a ~100km drive away. Most rural areas are less hostile to your face, but the local rumour mill can be incredibly cruel and harmful behind one’s back should you not conform or if someone takes issue with you. A gay couple moved to my area and at least initially suffered greatly for it. I guess the grass isn’t necessarily greener in either direction, the challenges and issues are just different.
    - vladvasiliu 4y ago
      > I guess the grass isn’t necessarily greener in either direction, the challenges and issues are just different. This nails it. > I’ll be honest I don’t really get why rural life appeals to those in the city. There may be multiple reasons, to each their own. As a city-dweller since I was kid, the biggest issue, and the one that has me contemplate rural(-er) living, is the constant noise. The housing market being what it is, it's very hard to find well-insulated apartments. In France, there have been new construction regulations for noise insulation, but most of the apartments in Paris were built before that. You can more or less easily get an apartment that doesn't face a major road (or any road at all). But you can never get an apartment with no neighbors (unless you're extremely rich, which isn't my, nor most people's case).
      - pard68 4y ago
User23 4y ago
How much of this is because of the boomer generation’s uniquely awful attitude towards their posterity and not rural life itself?
- graphe 4y ago
  Rural life sucks. You know why they have so many kids? When you friends play it's fun until they die from farm accidents like falling into grain silos or machines. You can't childproof a farm. It's way easier to die from misadventures.
  - pard68 4y ago
    Most childhood deaths are from walking into a road or getting into a car accident.

floren 4y ago

I grew up on a farm and now I work a tech job & live in the bay area. I'm currently between stages 5 and 6, looking forward to the farm in the middle of nowhere stage.

eddsh1994 4y ago
Hahaha I'm in Palo Alto, grew up in a farm, and constantly look at places online to buy. Moving to Stockholm in August, hopefully the next stop after that will be a farm.