I fuzzily recall someone writing of their visit to New York City(?), of how deeply disturbing it felt to encounter people living happy and oblivious, before fly

I fuzzily recall someone writing of their visit to New York City(?), of how deeply disturbing it felt to encounter people living happy and oblivious, before flying back home to a Sarayevo experiencing horror. Family deaths can feel similar. And then there's "out of sight, out of mind". And disaster fatigue. And learned helplessness in the face of multiple crises. Is there something tech might do, to better support forms of community that feel more robust in the face of similar challenges? To do better than "I thought I was deeply involved in a community, in friendships, but I may well die soon, and it seems no one cares." In science, mentor-mentee relationships often go suboptimally. Years ago there was a NAS effort to improve that, by creating training for mentees, and mentors, and department leadership, and other roles. Recognizing that such relationships are diverse, and the skills and systems required to support them are nontrivial. As we create ad hoc open source community relationships, what might an analogous effort look like? Like we do codes of conduct. A role of community facilitator sometimes exists. What else...? This post is a day old, and at 3 points. Ah well.