Social media, and more controversially a public orientation towards their 'values' defining their identities, which maybe has roots in some nice thinking and es

Social media, and more controversially a public orientation towards their 'values' defining their identities, which maybe has roots in some nice thinking and especially in trying to get kids with non-standard identities to not feel bad about it - but which ultimately causes a morass of confusion for all the kids. I think kids need at least some structure and guidance on social development and this 'chose your own identity' thing is leaving them listless. We don't become men and women arbitrarily, we grow into those roles with guidance. Given a new 'social convention' towards basically not defining those things, we're seeing a lot of kids fall off the side of the boat. When you add constant social media into the mix, which reinforces all of these things from peers, other toxic things, life pressures it's all too much. You used to have to 'compete' against kids from HS, now it's a national competition. I can't fathom how hard it is just to be a regular kid.