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I don’t recommend the kids one. You might get to talk to some people, but only about kids, and only in 10 second intervals before being interrupted by said kids

I don’t recommend the kids one. You might get to talk to some people, but only about kids, and only in 10 second intervals before being interrupted by said kids. Also, when you go back home, you still have to take care of them.

legerdemain 4y ago
Lots and lots of people say they've rebuilt their social circle as a result of having kids and making friends with other young parents. I think it definitely works for a lot of people.
- agentofoblivion 4y ago
  Oh, you should have kids to solve your social problems then!
  - legerdemain 4y ago
    Doing my best! I think it would also bring a lot of joy to my elderly, extremely isolated mother.
    - agentofoblivion 4y ago
      Sweet reason! Any thought to the human life you’ll create, or the enormous amounts of personal responsibility that will ensue?
      - legerdemain 4y ago
        You don't seem aware of the fact that a majority of adults expect to start a family and have it be a significant source of happiness in their lives.
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        agentofoblivion 4y ago
        Yes, you’re right and I’ve been obscene and annoying. I’m sorry. I have kids and know many parents. I think it’s odd to use these ancillary reasons as motivations for having kids because the change to your life is so huge and profound (and the implications of creating a new human are even bigger!), so that the idea that a person would embark on that as a mechanism to solve their social problems is a baffling way to look at it to me. Words can’t even describe the profundity of the impact. It would be like joining the military to get green clothes. Also, it doesn’t even work. Sure, you’ll talk to other parents at bbqs and kid birthday parties. But you mostly won’t have time for a meaningful social life, because it’s work, kids, bed for many years. And the social events you do have are severely constrained by the presence of kids. You just wait to find out how much nap and eating schedules dominate your life, and how meaningful of a conversation you can have with these parents while you’re both parenting. Not only do you have little social time, but you will not having YOU time and will lose a big part of your current identity as a result. A major part of your life is redirected into serving the needs of your kid, and you and your pleasure, and your social needs and whatever else go on the back burner. So forgive me for being snarky, but this strikes me as overwhelmingly absurd. And also I probably have low emotional energy due to taking care of kids after working all day…. But yes, fast forward 10 years and I’m sure it’s a different picture. But that’s quite the investment. I’d just join a trivia group or something.

legerdemain 4y ago

Lots and lots of people say they've rebuilt their social circle as a result of having kids and making friends with other young parents. I think it definitely works for a lot of people.

agentofoblivion 4y ago
Oh, you should have kids to solve your social problems then!
- legerdemain 4y ago
  Doing my best! I think it would also bring a lot of joy to my elderly, extremely isolated mother.
  - agentofoblivion 4y ago
    Sweet reason! Any thought to the human life you’ll create, or the enormous amounts of personal responsibility that will ensue?
    - legerdemain 4y ago
      You don't seem aware of the fact that a majority of adults expect to start a family and have it be a significant source of happiness in their lives.
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      - agentofoblivion 4y ago
        Yes, you’re right and I’ve been obscene and annoying. I’m sorry. I have kids and know many parents. I think it’s odd to use these ancillary reasons as motivations for having kids because the change to your life is so huge and profound (and the implications of creating a new human are even bigger!), so that the idea that a person would embark on that as a mechanism to solve their social problems is a baffling way to look at it to me. Words can’t even describe the profundity of the impact. It would be like joining the military to get green clothes. Also, it doesn’t even work. Sure, you’ll talk to other parents at bbqs and kid birthday parties. But you mostly won’t have time for a meaningful social life, because it’s work, kids, bed for many years. And the social events you do have are severely constrained by the presence of kids. You just wait to find out how much nap and eating schedules dominate your life, and how meaningful of a conversation you can have with these parents while you’re both parenting. Not only do you have little social time, but you will not having YOU time and will lose a big part of your current identity as a result. A major part of your life is redirected into serving the needs of your kid, and you and your pleasure, and your social needs and whatever else go on the back burner. So forgive me for being snarky, but this strikes me as overwhelmingly absurd. And also I probably have low emotional energy due to taking care of kids after working all day…. But yes, fast forward 10 years and I’m sure it’s a different picture. But that’s quite the investment. I’d just join a trivia group or something.