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I agree, I don't do this at a gym. I was curious about this and observed others, and found nobody else does. The only time I spoke to someone was when I decide

I agree, I don't do this at a gym. I was curious about this and observed others, and found nobody else does. The only time I spoke to someone was when I decided to use the unused yoga room to meditate, and a conversation naturally occured with a guy doing similar. A quick but interesting one about why prayer is different to meditation! Each gym is a subreddit though - try to observe the status quo there yours might be different.

deafpolygon 4y ago
> Each gym is a subreddit though Do I need to say "based comment"?
legerdemain 4y ago
People at my gym also only talk to people they've brought with them (i.e., adult couples working out together, groups of teenage boys). I did get this suggestion a lot from other people on HN, so I thought I'd throw it in.
mindcrime 4y ago
I was curious about this and observed others, and found nobody else does. Meh. I wouldn't say "never" do that. I've made friends from talking to people at the gym, but there's an etiquette to it. And it's not something you can force, IME. But if somebody is doing heavy deadlifts (for example) and you likewise do a lot of deadlifting, and the two of you are among a small group of people who do that (which is common at many commercial gyms) you might well find yourselves striking up a conversation. It could be a simple as "Hey man, I saw you pulling some heavy deads. Do you compete, or you just lift for your own satisfaction, or what?" And a simple thing like that often leads to a conversation and the beginnings of an acquaintanceship and maybe eventually real friendship. That said, I wouldn't go to the gym for the purpose of "meeting people." I'd go because I genuinely wanted to work out and get fit, and look at those chance connections as something that might or might not happen.

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I agree, I don't do this at a gym. I was curious about this and observed others, and found nobody else does. The only time I spoke to someone was when I decide

by quickthrower2 4y ago

deafpolygon 4y ago
> Each gym is a subreddit though Do I need to say "based comment"?
legerdemain 4y ago
People at my gym also only talk to people they've brought with them (i.e., adult couples working out together, groups of teenage boys). I did get this suggestion a lot from other people on HN, so I thought I'd throw it in.
mindcrime 4y ago
I was curious about this and observed others, and found nobody else does. Meh. I wouldn't say "never" do that. I've made friends from talking to people at the gym, but there's an etiquette to it. And it's not something you can force, IME. But if somebody is doing heavy deadlifts (for example) and you likewise do a lot of deadlifting, and the two of you are among a small group of people who do that (which is common at many commercial gyms) you might well find yourselves striking up a conversation. It could be a simple as "Hey man, I saw you pulling some heavy deads. Do you compete, or you just lift for your own satisfaction, or what?" And a simple thing like that often leads to a conversation and the beginnings of an acquaintanceship and maybe eventually real friendship. That said, I wouldn't go to the gym for the purpose of "meeting people." I'd go because I genuinely wanted to work out and get fit, and look at those chance connections as something that might or might not happen.