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I feel this. I am having a really hard time coping with parenting. I am logical person but my toddler is not. I like reading books and just silence which allow

by avgDev 4y ago

I feel this. I am having a really hard time coping with parenting. I am logical person but my toddler is not. I like reading books and just silence which allows me to think. That is completely gone in our house now. It is mostly crying, screaming, followed by more crying. There are some beautiful moments that I will cherish, but I really have a hard time. Other times, we are asking to brush teeth, get ready for bed, get in the car, get inside, or do something else which is met with MASSIVE resistance. I don't know how people have 3-4 kids. I would probably go insane.

heleninboodler 4y ago
I think the answer is that they're not all equally challenging. My first kid is easy as pie. Still a lot of work, but generally does what's asked of her, has rarely thrown fits, is quiet, etc. The second kid is a constant battle.
- wonderwonder 4y ago
  That's the nice thing about having multiple kids. The second kid situation is only 4 times harder than the single kid situation.
  - giantg2 4y ago
    A second kid is nice in theory. In practice it sounds like a nightmare.
    - wonderwonder 4y ago
      In the long run assuming the age gap is only a year or two it's actually beneficial. First couple years are very hard but after that they are friends and entertain each other. Sure they fight but when they are getting along and helping each other out it's peace on earth. Schedule can get challenging. Kids are all pretty much great by the time they hit 8 years old. It's a bear to get there though. Plus they are paired up at boxing so they get most of their resentment out there :)
      - heleninboodler 4y ago
        > Kids are all pretty much great by the time they hit 8 years old. Having a rather tricky 10 year old, I think this magic number is a bit off.
        wonderwonder 4y ago
        *results may vary. Not a guarantee of actual performance :)
      - giantg2 4y ago
        Multiple family medical issues mean if I were to have another kid, there'd be more than 5 years of age gap. Then it means different friend groups, different sports/activities teams, etc. Then add in that one parent works evening hours... Scheduling hell.
        heleninboodler 4y ago
        And at most ONE YEAR where they actually go to the same school. Ugh.
        wonderwonder 4y ago
        Yeah, that is a tough one; 5 years is trickier.
    - Slava_Propanei 4y ago
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theGnuMe 4y ago
It takes a village to raise a kid so find your village.
Cerpicio 4y ago
Don't get too worked up about it. The crying and screaming rate goes down as they get older. Bedtime routines get easier as they get more independent. Of course other issues might come up, but I think it gets easier as they get older. Hang in there! In a few more years you'll remember all the good times and the hardly remember that bad times. (Speaking from experience as a father of two biological children of 15 and 11, and an adopted son of 3. And I'm 51. I never thought I'd have a 3yo at this age. He'll start driving when I'm 64. I don't have as much patience as I used to, so I have to watch my emotions. But it's worth it!)
spikder 4y ago
you wouldn't go insane. you would adjust. it gets easier.

by avgDev 4y ago

heleninboodler 4y ago

I think the answer is that they're not all equally challenging. My first kid is easy as pie. Still a lot of work, but generally does what's asked of her, has rarely thrown fits, is quiet, etc. The second kid is a constant battle.

wonderwonder 4y ago
That's the nice thing about having multiple kids. The second kid situation is only 4 times harder than the single kid situation.
- giantg2 4y ago
  A second kid is nice in theory. In practice it sounds like a nightmare.
  - wonderwonder 4y ago
    In the long run assuming the age gap is only a year or two it's actually beneficial. First couple years are very hard but after that they are friends and entertain each other. Sure they fight but when they are getting along and helping each other out it's peace on earth. Schedule can get challenging. Kids are all pretty much great by the time they hit 8 years old. It's a bear to get there though. Plus they are paired up at boxing so they get most of their resentment out there :)
    - heleninboodler 4y ago
      > Kids are all pretty much great by the time they hit 8 years old. Having a rather tricky 10 year old, I think this magic number is a bit off.
      - wonderwonder 4y ago
        *results may vary. Not a guarantee of actual performance :)
    - giantg2 4y ago
      Multiple family medical issues mean if I were to have another kid, there'd be more than 5 years of age gap. Then it means different friend groups, different sports/activities teams, etc. Then add in that one parent works evening hours... Scheduling hell.
      - heleninboodler 4y ago
        And at most ONE YEAR where they actually go to the same school. Ugh.
      - wonderwonder 4y ago
        Yeah, that is a tough one; 5 years is trickier.
  - Slava_Propanei 4y ago
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theGnuMe 4y ago

It takes a village to raise a kid so find your village.

Cerpicio 4y ago

Don't get too worked up about it. The crying and screaming rate goes down as they get older. Bedtime routines get easier as they get more independent. Of course other issues might come up, but I think it gets easier as they get older. Hang in there! In a few more years you'll remember all the good times and the hardly remember that bad times. (Speaking from experience as a father of two biological children of 15 and 11, and an adopted son of 3. And I'm 51. I never thought I'd have a 3yo at this age. He'll start driving when I'm 64. I don't have as much patience as I used to, so I have to watch my emotions. But it's worth it!)

spikder 4y ago

you wouldn't go insane. you would adjust. it gets easier.